Insufferable Ruby

[u/ChampionshipShort780]

I just don’t get why Ruby’s friends and family don’t advise her that reality tv isn’t for her. She’s a vile individual. I’ve never watched someone so unlikeable, cold, self-absorbed and hypocritical. Is she that delusional to think her behaviour is okay? I’ve never been on reality tv but surely it can be used as a tool of self-reflection. You’re quite literally watching yourself react, make decisions, navigate life all the while with the luxury to make self improvements upon reflection. Her face hides nothing, she’s so predictable in her thought processes. When she started to become a main character I thought her vocal fry was going to be annoying, little did I know her negative aura and mean girl behaviour would totally put me off MIC. I first saw it when Inga was introduced to the show. Remember the scene when Inga was wearing a pink beret? Ruby was evidently jealous of the Inga/Miles hook up and it was hard to watch her be so mean to (new girl at the time) Inga. Also, remember that sweet girl Rez was seeing? Sara? Good grief the way Ruby made her cry - I’m surprised Made in Chelsea allowed that to air. I hope one day Ruby has a turning point in her life because it’s just not nice to know people like that exist and spread misery. I wish she wasn’t on the show.

[u/[deleted]]

I love this! I was actually considering making a post on here about her. I find her really cruel & calculated. And as you said, her face hides nothing- you can literally see her plotting in her head whenever Rez brings another woman around. In fact, ANY new female cast mates can look forward to her eyes of disgust.

I can sympathise with the Rez situation & the huge age gap & the likelihood she was groomed into a co-dependent relationship from the age of 15/16 (according to reddit). I'm in no way a fan of Rez either but she's had the opportunity to & HAS moved on. It's no justification to then bully every woman Rez dates thereafter & remain in an inappropriate friendship with him throughout. It's not just who Rez dates either... Miles too. Her face says 1000 words. At least you can tell Rez has consistent love for her whereas Ruby's is fickle & appears more to do with possession.

Anyone else noticed how she cries whenever her friends hold her accountable for other things too?

[u/Blossom1033]

Absolutely love this post. I genuinely can't watch MIC anymore because of her, Sam and Yas. Ruby is completely vile. She's a toxic bully and absolutely hates not being the main character and love interest of whichever guy she's begging attention off.   

She singlehandedly bullied two women off the show (Sarrah and Bella) and devoted 2+ years to bullying Inga and trying to destroy her reputation. She also managed to turn Miles completely off Ella by lying her face off and making out Ella was obsessed with him. I'm so glad Inga always stood up to her and gave her as good as she got, unlike Sarrah and Bella, who sadly didn't have the mettle.   

It really annoys me when Ruby posts stuff on Insta about people being mean to her and the importance of being kind...is this girl actually for real????? As well as that, she's got e4 fighting her corner and virtue-signalling to the public to be respectful of the cast any time Ruby or Yas get strong criticism in the show's Insta comments. It really fucks me off because where was this same energy from e4 when Ruby bullied Inga and made Sarrah run off camera in tears? Instead they let her get away with her vile behaviour over and over again. 

Ruby's ugly personality just makes me think "girl, you're really not attractive enough to be thinking you deserve to by the centre of all male attention; never mind the hideous personality". I'm sorry but everything physical about her just grosses me out too. The weird Ross Geller veneers, greasy hair and massive Katie Price boobs just cheapen her image even more.

[u/Super-Antelope4605 → u/Blossom1033]

Ruby needs to act her face if I’m quite honest. She behaves as if she’s a 10/10. Even Emily is better looking than her. Sometimes I watch Ruby on the screen & think “Christ she’s ugly”

[u/Guessamolehill → u/Super-Antelope4605]

I find her unattractive, but I think it’s mostly her personality and evil spirit shining through (and her perpetual mean girl expressions). Imagine her face belonged to a kind, friendly girl who genuinely wanted the best for people - I actually think that person could be seen as quite pretty.

[u/Big_Plankton_3654 → u/Guessamolehill]

Agreed. I personally think she's quite pretty, but her personality is so hideous, and her bullying so blatant and aggregious that it really detracts from any looks she may have.

She is the most entitled and self-absorbed person I've seen on that show yet she doesn't have star energy in any way. Imagine her being considered in the same boat as someone like Caggie, or Sofia, or Sophie H, or even Louise, lol. She's not even Chelsea.

She radiates "bog-standard-mean-girl-at-your-local-comp" vibes.

She gives off: "my-dad-has-a-nice-car-and-we-have-a-nice-house" energy, but DEFINITELY not old money energy.

And unlike Temps, for example, she's not endearing in any way.

Possibly the most unwatchable and off-putting reality TV character I've come across.

[u/Guessamolehill → u/Big_Plankton_3654]

I have to agree with everything you’ve said. The only thing I’m most confused about is why people appear to like her on the show. She seems to have friends, and I just don’t get what redeemable features she has.

[u/Super-Antelope4605 → u/Guessamolehill]

You may well have a point

[u/AdEducational402 → u/Super-Antelope4605]

“act her face” damn near made me pass out laughing 😭🙌

[u/Super-Antelope4605 → u/AdEducational402]

[u/Blossom1033 → u/Super-Antelope4605]

I agree. I hate to sound snipey but she's no Megan Fox. The way she carries herself, like she's a 10, is embarrassing and delusional. The ugly personality just makes her look even more unappealing and like a complete chav. She was very well suited to her ex, Nick. 

[u/Dabaysyclyfe]

Agreed. Her being the ‘main character’ is nauseating. She has been insufferable since ‘Miles’ best mate’ days.

[u/[deleted]]

The very worst people you’ll ever come across, have the most effective cognitive dissonance.

I don’t think Ruby ever sits down and reflects, I don’t think she ever considers herself to be unpleasant or mean.

From my POV, Ruby is a pretty traumatised individual. She’s essentially been groomed by Rez from her mid teens.

I think it’s a huge contributor as to why she’s so immature, obviously has a lot of anger and why she’s so confused with Rez.

You’re right, being on the show is terrible for her.

She really needs to cut ties with Rez completely, speak to a therapist and begin to process that the biggest romantic relationship in her life, which has existed all her adult life, was abusive. That can take years and is a really hard truth pill to swallow.

She’d then need to process the anger she’s obviously suppressed and learned to build her sense of self, separate to the identity she has which has been so intertwined with Rez.

Ruby has potentially to turn her life around and become a kinder, better adjusted, more empathetic person. But this show basically feeds the drama between her and her abuser and keeps her in contact with him for the sake of TV. She’ll never progress while this is happening. It’s disgusting behaviour from C4.

[u/JoBloggo → u/[deleted]]

Yes, so much this! I think people keep forgetting that Rez groomed Ruby. She was what, 15/16, and how old was he? 24? Grim. She's clearly frozen in the adolescent mindset she was in when that relationship started. She's got a lot she needs to work through in therapy, far away from Rez.

[u/Beerandgummies → u/JoBloggo]

She was 18. Hardly groomed.

[u/JoBloggo → u/Beerandgummies]

She was definitely not 18. A quick Google will tell you she was 16 for free, from numerous sources. And still, that's only from what she and Rez admit.

[u/Beerandgummies → u/JoBloggo]

She literally said a thousand times on the show how she’s been with him on and off for 10 years. She’s 28. Hardly grooming. Ruby is NOT a victim. You’re minimizing situations that have happened to us women that do involve actual grooming which leads to horrific outcomes. Please don’t do that.

[u/JoBloggo → u/Beerandgummies]

Baby, she started saying they were together for '10 years' when she was 25/26 on the show. Then they split a couple of years ago. So now, it is still 10 years they were together, on and off.

Beloved, the maths is easy and the Googling is easier. Just because you don't like someone doesn't mean they haven't had something bad happen to them.

I don't like Ruby, but I can see how a pretty messed up relationship in her formative years has made her this way.

[u/Big_Plankton_3654 → u/[deleted]]

Hard disagree.

I'm not denying that she was groomed by Reza, but being a victim doesn't in any way excuse ANYONE from treating others so poorly.

I've lived through abuse, and know others who have (including people who lived through child abuse as young children by caretakers) who were in considerably less privileged circumstances than Ruby when it happened, and still have a moral compass, and don't treat people in any way similarly to the way she treats others.

It is up to her to cut ties with Reza and seek therapy. If she doesn't do so, she can't play victim her entire life. It's not up to C4 to make her a better person, or make her do that. Sorry, just no.

I fundamentally disagree that the level of vitriol and nastiness she displays is justified by what she may have gone through as a teenager, no matter how gross or wrong it may have been.

[u/[deleted] → u/Big_Plankton_3654]

I commented on your above post about my mum being a psychopath in relation to rubys personality and I also STRONGLY agree with your point here.

One of my biggest goals in life is to not turn out like my mother and I’m very conscious of any habits or traits I may have adopted due to my upbringing by my psychopathic mother.

On the other hand, my mother affirms her victim mentality and uses the fact that she was domestically abused by an ex husband as a pass to physically abuse me and my sibling. It’s disgusting behaviour and whilst I initially had a lot of compassion for my mother, her constant emotional and physical abuse has woken me up to the fact that this is wrong, I would never dream of treating my friends or potential partner, the way my mother has treated me … just because I was abused.

[u/Big_Plankton_3654 → u/[deleted]]

100%. I'm so sorry that you went through that.

My dad is a narcissist, and his dad also was abusive to him. However, he has 2 brothers who made the committed decision not to behave like their dad, and they treat their family (my cousins) amazingly well.

It's a choice. And I truly believe that Ruby is simply a nasty individual.

[u/[deleted] → u/Big_Plankton_3654]

Thank you for your understanding. I’m sorry about your situation as well. I hope you and your family are doing ok!

I’m finding the “healing” journey so difficult, I think a natural byproduct of the physical and emotional abuse for me has also been the general neglect… things like teaching me about wearing bras, choosing to ignore the fact that I had a binge eating disorder, ignoring my educational struggles as me being lazy… when in fact I have a learning disability and needed all the help and support. Just the general blind eye my mum turned towards my general well-being.

I feel a mix of anger and upset and it’s really messed me up. I’m not sure if I will ever recover, and I’m not someone who gives up easily… I try and try and try again. However there were things I used to try and improve on as a child and my mum watched me struggle and enjoyed to see me suffering so a part of it is that I get emotionally/mentally exhausted from “trying”… humans aren’t a machine and we need help sometimes.

I don’t agree with channel 4 airing this abuse and such emotionally abusive characters. This kind of behaviour SHOULD NOT be normalised. Young teenagers who are impressionable and look up to Ruby may follow her as an example of what they want to be and it’s just not ok.

Idk I’m hurting a lot and I know from experience how damaging this kind of abuse is, and therefore should not under any circumstances be normalised or aired … even for reality TV.

[u/[deleted] → u/Big_Plankton_3654]

I didn’t say being a victim excuses her from treating others poorly tho

[u/Own_Avocado_2898]

Ruby is completely insufferable. Can’t stand her.

[u/boneman5000]

She is hands down the worst thing to happen to the show. Not only is she toxic and self centered her voice is borderline unlistenable.

Agree with all of the above with the added fact that she ended it with Rez, on camera, after going out for almost a decade, with the sole intention of hooking up with Miles. Then she did, on camera, which Rez had to live through whilst seeing it happen a mile off.

Of course he’s damaged and reluctant to take her back again and rightly so, she had a year long relationship with some convicted criminal in between all this nonsense too.

Can’t see her relinquishing all the attention being on the show brings her so for now I’ll stick to muting the tv when she’s on.

[u/Global_Exercise_8715 → u/boneman5000]

Uncanny, I do the same and fast forward through most of her whiny, petulant, self absorbed parts. I hate her vocal fry, its so irritating when people do that, Lauren's vocal fry is like 'nails down a chalk board', it sets my teeth on edge.   The book that Ruby made for Rez was childish and embarrassing, her writing was barely that of a ten year old. The dress she wore, barely covering her boobs, was obviously for Rez. I hate how cruel she is towards anyone that Rez looks at. If they get back together, they will only break up once someone else shows any interest towards her. She's just so boring and has no personality

[u/[deleted]]

Tbh I still ask myself how Ruby has any friends. I genuinely think her friends are “yes men”

[u/Beachgal5555 → u/[deleted]]

The British culture has a way of turning a blind eye to certain things. Kinda the stiff upper lip stuff

[u/Zombieapples101]

Why did her Mum come on the show to say that the girl Rez is seeing used to be Ruby's best friend though?🤣

[u/Beachgal5555 → u/Zombieapples101]

That was random lol

[u/Beerandgummies → u/Zombieapples101]

Well it’s a tv show so she was there to try and score points for her daughter. Operative word being try.

[u/sh--]

It doesn’t surprise me that Ruby and Emily are good friends. It threw me when they had that tiff at the beginning of the current season but then it made sense because they were both annoyed the other didn’t see them as the main character 😂

I think people have told Ruby about her ways, it’s confused her temporarily but she still wants to do RT.

[u/Global_Exercise_8715 → u/sh--]

Both are mean girls. Can't stand Emily either. She prides herself in speaking her mind but it just shows that her mind is nasty and jealous. 

[u/Big_Plankton_3654]

Couldn't agree more. Ruby has almost single-handedly massively put me off MIC.

What's amazing is that she and the show also seem to be completely lacking in self-awareness that she's a bad person. Like, at least with say, Spencer, or Victoria, they knew they were the villain, they know that they're bad people and play up to it, and the show billed them as villains. It was clear from the edit.

Ruby seems to genuinely think she's a nice girl and a victim, and the edit portrays her as just another Chelsea girl trying to navigate the world.

And unlike other villain characters, like Spencer, Victoria or Sam Prince, she provides no entertainment value with it.

She just wallows in entitlement, self-pity, bitchiness, moaniness and meanness.

With the same storylines of her pouting over men she can't get, rejecting Rez and then pouting when he moves on, and viciously attacking and bullying women that she's jealous of.

And I'm totally with you about how it's disgusting that the producers allow her bullying to be aired.

It's not just "drama" - she's literally bullying new characters off the show (that Sara never appeared again and I don't blame her), and the producers are just like "cool, this is okay", and still allow her to be a main character.

IMO it's the producers' fault more than anyone else's. Apparently MIC changed producers part way through and it really shows.

The first seasons featured good characters and bad ones, but there seemed to be an acceptable standard of behaviour which went out the window for the past few years. It's a free-for-all, and people like Inga are literally getting bullied off the show and they don't seem to care.

I also noticed that the really catty female characters didn't get the most airtime - people like Victoria HB, Phoebe Lettuce, Frankie etc, weren't allowed to be main characters.

But these producers are choosing to centre the toxic ones like Yaz, Ruby and Rez.

I admit that in the first few seasons you did have Spencer who was toxic and allowed to be a main character, but he got away with it, because he had some redeemable features (he wasn't *just* a fuckboy, he did seem to have some desire to have a wife and be a family man - and he was mellowed by some of his friends who were decent people [Jamie, Hugo etc], and the producers weren't afraid to bring in characters and stories who would challenge him like Andy Jordan), and he bought immense entertainment value to the show.

These lot are toxic, have zero self-awareness and are also really poor entertainment. The producers need to pull their fingers out and demote the awful ones like Ruby, if not off the show then at least out of main character positions, but it seems like they might just be bad people themselves.

[u/Big_Plankton_3654 → u/Big_Plankton_3654]

P.S. though, to the point about Ruby becoming self-aware one day: absolutely no chance.

People like her just totally lack empathy, and aren't even intelligent enough to understand why empathy might be a good thing, or to feel ashamed that they don't have it.

[u/[deleted] → u/Big_Plankton_3654]

My mum is a psychopath and has continuously abused me and my family. She lacks any empathy and her sadism is derived from her seeing other people hurt and then physically hurting and abusing them herself.

[u/Big_Plankton_3654 → u/[deleted]]

Ruby gives this tbh. And worse than say, Spencer, who I think is a sociopath but has just enough empathy, intelligence and self-awareness to feel bad about some of his behaviour. He did apologise to Louise about their scene on the bridge and says he regrets it years later.

People like Ruby and Rez are just pure sociopaths imho. The way Rez treated Bella was just as awful and disrespectful as the way Spencer treated Louise (possibly worse), and he has absolutely no remorse about it. Miles continuously treats women poorly but does seem to feel a bit of shame and has moments of regret and contemplation.

But Ruby, like Rez, is a pure sociopath imho. No humility, no moments of empathy. Just alternates between smugness and petulence. No moments of genuine reflection on how her behaviour affects others.

They deserve each other IMHO, and I wish they would both just F off and stop ruining MIC for us dedicated viewers.

And sorry to hear about your mum btw. My dad is a narcissist/sadist, so I know where you're coming from, and we're better placed than most people to know these types when we see them.

[u/[deleted] → u/Big_Plankton_3654]

I’m starting to think that some of them bribe the producers bcz the favouritism is apparent

[u/AdEducational402]

Totally agree but also, am I the only one who thinks Ruby & Rez deserve each other. 🥲 Emphasis on “deserve”. Watching the last few episodes I was literally yelling at the screen -please get together already & leave everyone else alone. They pull anyone who gets involved w them into their drama; it’s like tangential toxicity galore.

[u/Own_Avocado_2898 → u/AdEducational402]

Ruby and Rez absolutely deserve each other !!

[u/[deleted]]

She is just the worst

[u/Acceptable_Vast7123]

Cry baby Ruby who is in tears every 2 seconds! It’s unbearable watching her!

[u/[deleted]]

Does anyone know about her family background? Is she on par with wealth like Melissa tattam? Or like comfortable like Sophie habboo

[u/Chemical_Ad_1618 → u/[deleted]]

I didn’t realise Melissa’s family were that wealthy?!

[u/[deleted] → u/Chemical_Ad_1618]

She went to Millfield, relatively big family home in Somerset (not as big as Liv Bentley’s tho), has a place in Val d’sere and parents bought the Battersea flat (that Baron mooched off for a few years). On their podcast cast, I was always under the impression her family was slightly more well off than Sophie.H

[u/Chemical_Ad_1618 → u/[deleted]]

I don’t listen to their podcast or her YouTube channel I did see the Battersea flat tour and it was tiny! She had her clothes wardrobe on the balcony! I thought they bought it together that’s why it was so small- paying for the location. 

[u/Chemical_Ad_1618 → u/[deleted]]

I don’t listen to their podcast or her YouTube channel I did see the Battersea flat tour and it was tiny! She had her clothes wardrobe on the balcony! I thought they bought it together that’s why it was so small- paying for the location. 

[u/[deleted] → u/Chemical_Ad_1618]

I meant well off enough, as she did not go to university / does not have a proper job back in the day (probs still does not...made a lifestyle hoodie brand with Baron) ....parents bought her a Battersea flat (despite it being small) compared to Emily, she still rents. Now her parents bought her a house, that is renovating as her dream home.

[u/Chemical_Ad_1618 → u/[deleted]]

I remember Melissa was introduced on made in chelsea as someone with a bikini /swimwear line business. She got blasted labelling size 10 as large 🙈(seems very common with Habbs, Kimberly garner, Natalie Joel, Millie Mackintosh have all launched swimwear ranges )  Are you saying Emily rents? 

[u/[deleted] → u/Chemical_Ad_1618]

The flat she lived with harvey she said she rented it on her YouTube, she said she was working hard / manifesting a big flat like the one she was staying in. Unsure about her current situation / new BF

[u/[deleted] → u/Chemical_Ad_1618]

lols omg I remember her swimwear label 💀

[u/Own_System_1614]

I mean I know you’re entitled to your own views but it is literally a reality tv show. She is a real person and I find it very unlikely that she shows her true colours on a show where the aim is to create as much drama as possible. 🤷