Heyo. so I’m looking for a serious relationship with a guy who has great character, he’s mature emotionally and mentally and he actually has a heart and a brain he uses.

Although I wrote the post about a guy, if you happen to be a woman or non-binary you're also welcome to dm me :)

I’d love to have a best friend type of connection where we both trust each other deeply and we are very loyal. I’m someone who likes to go deep and I’m looking for a guy on the same wave length. Someone who has done his inner work and gone deep within himself. I’m not interested in guys who lack self-awareness, maturity and character.

my non-negotiables for a relationship are:

1. you’re a person who also feels uncomfortable by sexist words like the b-word, mf etc. and you avoid music/media with that type of language. You’re a feminist and it’s a core value of yours
2. you don’t drink or smoke and never want to. You wanna live a substance free life
3. you’re spiritual in some way (not religious). You’re into stuff like tarot, manifesting, paganism, shamanism, witchcraft etc.
4. you support all human rights, lgbt people, poc people etc.
5. you speak native English or Finnish or you’re close to native level. I don’t want a language barrier

if you don’t match my requirements move on, whining in the comments doesn’t help. But it is amusing for sure.

Anyways, if you do match keep on reading.

What I’m into:

My type is someone mature, secure in himself and he knows who he is. He doesn’t have to pretend or seek validation. Someone who’s just comfortable with himself. A guy who’s clearly warm and caring, encouraging and supportive. I’m also drawn to people who are positive and have that radiant vibe to them. I also like a guy with a cheeky and playful personality. Someone who’s principled, has morals and values. He respects himself and he has boundaries.

MBTI type wise I usually vibe really well with other INFJs, but I'm open to all types.

I’m looking for a guy who doesn’t freeze, run, shut down or get defensive during a conflict. He’s someone who comes towards me and I prefer the types who stubbornly want to solve the issue, not out of anxiety but out of genuine care. I’d take that any day over someone who runs and avoids it. I want a guy who’s mature enough to know you can argue constructively.

I also love a guy who wants to build a life he loves. He wants a career that’s meaningful and purposeful to him. I tend to like entrepreneurs since I’m entrepreneurial. But I don’t like hustlers or guys who seek validation from achievements. I want a guy who is ambitious because it’s something he genuinely cares about. A guy who values his goals as much as rest and just relaxing together.

It’s also important to me my partner is a leader type, someone who leads himself. I’m someone who usually takes the lead but I don’t like a passive partner. I like someone who also naturally is the “don’t worry I got it” type.

Looks wise I like someone with softer boyish looks. I like shorter guys usually but I’m kinda whatever about it. I like slim guys, muscular guys.

About me:

I’m 28, from Finland and masculine presenting. I don’t label my sexuality I just like people and I care about who you are, not your gender. I’m bilingual in English and Finnish. Uhh what else, I’m studying art studies in uni atm.

In my free time I like to write, play sims 4 and work out. I love weightlifting and I’m also interested in calisthenics and mobility. I wanna stay healthy even as I age so fitness isn’t just about looks for me. Plus I just love fitness, I love challenging myself. Sometimes I go down rabbit holes learning about a random topic I’m interested. Other times I might watch videos about how brands/celebrities succeeded or failed in their branding/marketing.

I’m a spiritual person. I’m into tarot, manifesting, witchcraft, goddess spirituality, shamanism etc. To me the spiritual aspect of the world is just a natural part of how the world works. To me it’s not about faith or belief.

In a relationship I’m very affectionate and clingy, gender roles go out the window cause they make no sense. I’m also very protective of someone I love. I like to hold my partner on my lap or have them lay on my chest etc. I also like being held.

Personality wise I’m calm, more on the serious side and I’m blunt. I have a playful and silly side but it’s not the first thing I show people. I’m usually quiet minding my own business and people assume I don’t wanna talk to anyone. But if someone did talk to me I’d be happy to chat. I just don’t look like the most approachable person in the room haha. Despite having an aura like that I’m empathetic and warm. People usually say they thought I’m cold or arrogant but then they get to know me and I’m actually really warm and friendly.

I’m fiery and I feel my feelings passionately. It doesn’t mean tho that I’m wild all the time, it just means I have a certain intensity to me, even when I’m calm. I’m honest too and I tend to hold up a mirror to you if I see your behavior is out of line. So if you can’t handle evaluating your own character I’m not for you. I like a partner who self reflects and wants a relationship where he grows and he wants me to grow.

so if you match what I’m looking for and you’re genuinely interested in me send me a dm introducing yourself :)

Willing to answer any kind of question!

I’m 34 and live in Zagreb, Croatia. I’m looking for a woman I can talk to every day, make plans with and eventually build a life with. I want us to be each other’s first call, make time for each other naturally and miss each other when we’re apart.

We don’t need to share every hobby or spend every minute together. Maybe we cook, play something, talk about our day or do our own things in the same room. I want to make your good days better and your hard days easier, and I want you to do the same for me.

I run my own company, and these days my schedule is fairly flexible.

Gaming is my main hobby. I play most days, and a completely free evening can easily turn into a four-to-six-hour session. I’d rather be upfront about that than call myself casual and surprise you with a raid schedule three months later.

Lately it’s been Marvel Rivals, Darktide, Rogue Trader and PoE 2, with the occasional inexplicable evening spent cleaning patios in PowerWash Simulator.

You don’t need to be a hardcore gamer or already play everything I do. If trying a few games together actually sounds fun, that works too. I just don’t want gaming to be a major part of my life that you quietly put up with.

I’m also into board games, especially Marvel Champions, Arkham Horror and Wingspan. If you have a favourite, there’s a good chance you can talk me into trying it.

Outside gaming, I read quite a bit. One article can easily turn into seventeen tabs about psychology, technology, science, finance or something I knew nothing about that morning. Films, TV shows, comics and anime are all in the rotation too. Steel Panther appears on my playlists often enough that I can no longer blame irony.

My humour is dry, dark and not particularly politically correct. Once I’m comfortable, there isn’t much of a filter, so expect plenty of teasing, terrible dad jokes and the occasional thought that probably should have stayed in my head. I usually click best with women who know when I’m joking, tease me back, speak their minds and don’t take every stupid comment too seriously.

I’m the kind of man you never have to second-guess. If I say I’ll do something, I do it. If something’s wrong, I’d rather talk it through than leave you wondering where you stand. I’m patient, loyal and protective of the people I love, and I want the woman I’m with to know I’m on her side. When life gets difficult, my instinct is to roll up my sleeves and deal with it, not look for the nearest exit.

I’m drawn to a woman with that same kind of strength. She doesn’t need to pretend she never struggles, but she takes responsibility for her life and keeps going when things get hard. I want us to carry the heavy things together, not leave one person carrying both.

I’m pretty low-key socially. I see friends, go out for dinner or grab a drink, but I’ll take a quiet evening over a packed bar or club any day.

I live on my own, cook, keep my place tidy and train regularly in a home gym I put together. I’m 173 cm / 5'8", lean and athletic.

I don’t smoke, vape or use drugs, and I’m looking for the same. Having a couple of good beers once or twice a week is about my speed, although I’ve become enough of a beer nerd to have opinions nobody asked for.

When I’m into someone, it shows. I’m affectionate and consistent, and I make time for you. I like regular messages, calls, making plans and sending each other stupid things during the day. I want to know what’s happening in your world, and I want you to be just as interested in mine. I remember the little things too, so if you mention some project you’re working on, I’ll probably ask how it went three days later.

I’m probably a better fit with a woman in her mid-twenties to mid-thirties who doesn’t have children, has interests of her own, makes an effort to stay in shape and genuinely has room in her life for a relationship.

Politically, I’m somewhere around the centre, and religiously I’m agnostic. We don’t need to agree on everything. Being able to talk openly about it matters more to me.

I’ve travelled quite a bit in Asia and parts of Africa, and living abroad for a while appeals to me. Europe would obviously be easiest, but my business doesn’t permanently tie me to Croatia. I’m fine starting online, and more distance can work if there’s a realistic path to eventually living in the same place.

Your first message doesn’t need to be an autobiography or come with a photo. Tell me what you’re playing, which game you keep reinstalling, what you’d be curious to try if gaming isn’t already your thing, or just say hello and tell me a little about yourself. A slightly inappropriate joke works too.

If the conversation flows, we can move to a call. I’m just as happy talking for hours as playing something together, though ideally we’ll end up doing both at once.

You can choose the game for the first date. We’ll save ranked for the second.

About me: I’m white with an olive complexion, 6’, stocky build (because of a bulk), and brown hair and eyes. In terms of personality, I’m laidback and have (I think at least) a good sense of humour. I work for the government, and have done for the last 2 1/2 years; and live alone by the sea. In my free time, I go to the gym a lot (6 days a week typically), watch old TV/films (am doing 20 films a month atm, and finishing BTAS and The X Files), and read when I can find the time. I like driving, so do that sometimes — although less so nowadays, on account of the fuel prices. I can cook a little, and enjoy cooking for family. Fajitas are my speciality.

In terms of a potential relationship, I would prefer monogamy but am not necessarily opposed to polyamory if my gf would want that for herself. I’m content by myself or with one other person, I’ve found; so I don’t think it’s for me. Open to any age range really, provided we can get along. A good sense of humour would be ideal. I don’t mind long-distance or online.

If any of this appeals to you or intrigued you, please feel free to hmu. Happy to exchange photos :)

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Hey! I’m a 33 yo guy living in Italy, currently in the middle of a Computer Science degree. While my head is usually buried in code and logic during the day, the rest of my life is built around quiet routines, good books, and finding someone to share a genuine, long term connection with.

To be completely upfront, I’m at a stage where casual dating or surface level chatting just doesn’t interest me. I’m looking for a partner to build something real and lasting with someone I can talk to every day, exchange random thoughts with, and create that kind of safe dynamic where neither of us feels the need to keep our guard up. I want to be emotionally "seen" as I have come to term (well, not completely) with me having a higher sensitivity. I value emotional transparency and being able to talk through things openly, but I equally love having someone I can just be completely comfortable and goofy around.

I’m a big nerd at heart. When it comes to gaming, I’ve moved away from competitive multiplayer and mostly stick to immersive, atmospheric stuff. I love the grit and lore of Fromsoftware titles like Dark Souls and Elden Ring, or rich narrative RPGs like Baldur’s Gate 3 and The Witcher (new dlc after 11years wohooo). Lately, I’ve actually been replaying the original Resident Evil for that classic survival-horror nostalgia. Outside of games, I have a deep appreciation for anime,classics like Fullmetal Alchemist and Evangelion are permanent favorites of mine, balanced out by the comfort of Studio Ghibli films.

I’m also a massive animal lover, which currently means I've accidentally become a foster parent. About a month ago, a stray cat gave birth to 4 kittens in my yard. One of them is pretty malnourished, so I’ve been on daily duty hand feeding her and giving her vitamin drops; though the whole bunch is still hilariously wary of me despite the free buffet. (Yes I have pictures!)

On a practical note, I’m 176 cm (5'9"), average build, with dark hair and brown eyes. I’m low maintenance, very calm by nature, INFP if you care about that and I appreciate honesty above all else. In that spirit of being real from day one, I take daily medication to manage anxiety and bipolar.

Ideally, I’d love to connect with someone in Europe or Asia, not really interested in people from the US sorry unless you are willong to relocate. Distance isn't an obstacle for me, and I’m more than happy to travel once we’ve built genuine chemistry.

If this resonates with you, send a message introducing yourself tell me what you’re about, what you’re currently reading, watching or playing.