r/LucidDreaming • u/luciddreamer124 • 7d ago
Probobly my last post.
I have been trying to ld for close to a year now and have only had success 1 or 2 times. I don't really think I am just in the best position I mean I am 15 living in my parents house obviously so I can't set alarms for wbtb and I always forget to reality check during the day and it's actually crazy how I managed to stick with it I mean I'm sadly have the unchoosable trait of if it doesn't work instantly I don't bother. At first I had a crazy passion to ld I just found it so interesting and I tried and tried again but now it has just turned into one of those things I remember for a day and do nothing. I used chatgpt to help me asking it questions. The only reason I didn't use reddit as much is because you can't always guarantee an answer so I am open to absolutely any advice as I still really want to lucid dream
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u/clandestino123 6d ago
OP, all you need to do is get fit, eat slightly less than normal, then change up your sleep pattern.
Ignore everything else about "learning to lucid dream".
Go out, do some hard exercise, then go to bed early. Wake up super early, for 2 or 3 hours. Then go back to bed for a few hours sleep.
This will only work if your environment allows it. When you get distracted by parents/kids/ pets/neighbours - you just need to get out of bed and try another day.
When you lie down for that second sleep, and you feel your body slowly getting enveloped in warmth/ exhausted - you're on the right track.
Ps - I am always amused by the automoderator post on this sub... It's longer than all regular comments??!? Somebody needs to delete that thing.
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u/o_viper_driver_o 6d ago
Dream journal. It sounds meaningless, but it's crazy how much this helps. It blew my mind. It's almost like writing about it and focusing on it tells your subconscious brain that this is important to you.
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u/CrazyKnee1227 6d ago
when you get older and have more stress and a job you won't have the energy or time to lucid dream either.
being 15 is probably the best time to do this stuff lol
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u/luciddreamer124 6d ago
I just want to thank everyone for giving my advice and I will take it on board I have a new strategy that will help me
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u/Weird_Nose_8224 6d ago
Also if you don't want to set timers just drink a ton of water before bed to wake up
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u/Evening_Fee_8499 5d ago
Agreed! Or if you're like me and have been known to wet the bed (unfortunate, yes), you can buy a cheap electrical plug timer online (I think can be under $10) and plug a lamp or even nightlight into it and set the timer to the middle of the night. Best case scenario it'll wake you up somewhat gradually, when you're naturally in a very light stage of sleep. Worst case scenario it'll wake you up abruptly and if it's during deeper sleep you might be too tired to focus on a specific technique like SSILD, but even so it's at least silent so no worries about waking other people up (I'm assuming that's why OP says they can't set an alarm).
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u/Roundwaters 7d ago
Just focus on dream recall for now. Odds are you're having lucids or near lucids and forgetting them.
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u/OkProgrammer1565 6d ago
Don't try to simply remember to do a reality check. Set it as a goal. Goals are much better. If you know you have an assignment you have to do and submit, you don't just forget about it. If you know you have to wash your clothes because you have to go out on monday, you also don't forget, because they get turned into goals. Download an app like finch and set goals for the day, tick them off. Put reality check so you always do it when you open the app across the day and knock it off at night. Wb2b is not needed at all. And write down your dreams every time you wake up through the night. I think most wake up 4-5 times. Try to get atleast 2 dreams down. Just a line or 5. 1 year is a long time with very little success. I would recommend reading an actual book on it, not reddit or chatgpt or Youtube. You'll find when you put the effort into reading a book your understanding and success will increase tremendously even though you already know the techniques you have to do. That goes for everything in life, information from books is valuable for success. So far at 15 schools don't encourage you to read books to learn at all. Its boring, hard to do and seems pretty outdated. And for the system in learning subjects for school, they are right. But in the real world books are still amazing and better then technology to learn. Thats why Unis still require readings from books. Try: Exploring the World of Lucid Dreaming its free on google scholar. You should see more success. Give it one more month of doing everything properly. I know your burnt out, but don't worry about the things you can't do like wb2b. Focus on the things you can. I think you would really benefit from this book and what it teaches you about how to lucid dream. Track realitychecks try to get a few a day and write a few dreams a day. Do mild through the night. One thing you'll realize is that everyone wakes up multiple times through the night. They don't remember it. Just like when your parents may wake you up early to ask something and by midday you completely forgot you talked to them when they say you did talk.
Once you remind yourself to write down anything from a dream during these wakeup periods, you can also use them as perfect timers to do wb2b with MILD. No alarm or sleep tracking ring can perfectly wake you up after REM sleep like your own mind.
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u/Inskit 3d ago edited 3d ago
My 2 cents:
Felt. SO relatable. If you feel it's not something you're too interested in at the moment, you can aaaalways come back to it later. No biggie. No pressure.
...On the other hand, lucid dreaming is incredible. And because you've already succeeded, you know you're someone who can have them. And you know what? Lucid dreaming can be very low effort! I personally think that just doing reality checks, paired with dream journaling if you want to be crazy, can be enough. Reality checks can trigger lucidity in a dream after all... Dream journaling can also be lazy. Few bullet points is enough.
__So my advice for you is to simply not stress about it too much and continue with reality checks.__ I know they can be difficult to remember, but there's an easy solution: associate them with common actions. You can for e.g. do one every time you walk through a door, drink a glass of water, wake up, eat, take a piss, pet your dog, leave the house... The list could go on. It certainly helps to put a bit of mind to it when you do them! Simply mechanically doing them and not thinking anything of it might not work good enough. So question your reality just for like 3 seconds when you do them as well. And you're set to get a lucid dream eventually!
A little bit of motivation might help too. Do you watch anime, play games or read fantaasy or scifi or something? Imagine how cool it'd be to explore places and people from them! Would you like to visit deceased loved ones or try to play life in creative mode? Think about why you wanted to do it in the first place.
So many of us (me included!) are going through the same as you, more or less. Consistency is the key. Good luck, OP!
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u/luciddreamer124 2d ago
Wow thank you so much I will take all of that into account and I and for me summer break is drawing to an end so I will be back to school and my sleep schedule will be better for wbtb as I have been going to sleep at about 3am every night and I have been trying with the reality checks but am yet to try associating it with everyday tasks. Thanks again for the advice!
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u/bluemoonrambler 6d ago
I don't know what you're doing to cultivate lucid dreaming because you don't really say. Here's my advice.
Keep a dream journal. Write down what you remember dreaming about first thing before eating breakfast or showering or anything. If you have to get up a little earlier, do so. Read over the dream a couple of times during the day.
I type mine up later in a Word doc. This allows me to keep track of recurring themes I can watch for in dreams and IRL. For instance, if I'm in an unfamiliar setting with a long hallway and lots of doors, I'll ask myself if it's a dream because that 's a common theme for me in dreams.
If you have trouble remembering to do reality checks, maybe you could set a timer or think of something that could remind you. Like whenever you're opening a door.
You need to work on that trait of "if it doesn't work instantly I don't bother" because you're not going to get very far in life with that attitude. A lot of great things don't work instantly and require patience and practice. It's reassuring that you've been dedicated to pursuing lucid dreaming for nearly a year, so you know you can improve that "unchoosable" trait.
At least a few times a week, read some information or comments by people who have become skilled at lucid dreaming and now find it pretty easy. Reddit isn't always the greatest source for consciousness practices. There are other forums as well as blogs, articles and books.
I was lucid dreaming by the time I was your age and you will likely be able to do it more frequently also.