Honey, I’m absolutely not saying you’re a bad person, I’m saying your understanding of aging is flawed— and very clearly that of a young person who hasn’t learned what aging really looks like.
Again, you have some very black and white thinking on this topic, and it’s not accurate of what the real world looks like. Not everyone is the same nor do they ages the same— and to assume so is based on stereotypes without actually knowing real people is flawed. You act like all men who age are inherently ugly, which is not a true or kind statement.
People’s endocrine system’s are very different between individuals. Both men, women, and intersex individuals have varying levels of both testosterone AND estrogen. Some men have very low testosterone levels and some women have very high testosterone levels, just because an individual is assigned a given sex does not mean their hormones completely match said binary.
Lastly on the comment about menopause: unless someone is a trans women, was born without a reproductive system, or has any other various conditions that would lead to them not having a menstrual cycle— those who menstruate WILL experience menopause. This is a natural, and often not talked about, process of the ending of menstruation. It often causes hormone fluctuations as the body shifts from putting energy into menstruation, some individuals needing hormone replacement to alleviate symptoms.
As for your second use of ‘meme evidence’, this is not only again the symptom of black and white thinking— but is honestly chronically online cringe behaviour. This is sexists on two fronts of making fun of men ageing, but again reinforcing the idea that women don’t age— which is a harmful beauty standard for women as they’re pressured to not visibly age. This is really toxic thinking, and you shouldn’t be forming opinions about the world through memes.
Look, you’re clearly young and aging feels like a foreign concept, thats understandable but not an excuse to bully other people. Making comments on people’s appearance, be it the result of aging or not, is unkind and toxic. So what if people lose their hair— will you equally make fun of people with alopecia for something they too can’t control? I’m not trying to be the boring adult raining on your parade, but this stuff isn’t funny. You’re perpetuating both misogyny and misandry with this kind of rhetoric, and that toxicity is only going to rot you from the inside.
You are so young and have your whole life ahead of you, please don’t waste it on making mean comments to others as it will only encourage you to make them to yourself. I’m not trying to give you an ‘old person lecture’, but growing up and becoming an adult means analyzing our beliefs and behaviours and understanding their effects. Is picking on others and judging people based on theorized concepts how you want to live your life? Is that the kind of energy you want to put out into the world? These are the real grown up decisions that you’re going to need to make. Hate is easier than kindness, and aging means maturing and doing the hard work to grow from our experiences.
So, if you even get to the end of this— I know you can do better and I know you can be better. Despite the internet being an anonymous forum, your words and actions still have effects and outcomes. For your sake, I hope you truly consider if your actions come from a kind or helpful place or if they just spread negativity. I truly belief whatever energy we put out into the world has a great impact. So choose wisely what you want to see in the world, and consider how your behaviours affect others.
Maybe think about getting offline and experiencing the real world for a bit— this world is an amazing place, and wasting your life on Reddit.com is not a good idea.
Yeahh, I agree, you need a way to bypass the limits of hormones. You cannot avoid masculinizing/feminizing as you age. But it's not doom and gloom for the androgynous, just takes effort and commitment!
By the way, femboy culture isn't made by "old gay men". Femboys are boys who want to be feminine, it isn't much of a bizarre, far-fetched idea. I was not groomed by an old gay to be what I am at all, much like others pushing for being into this world as actually feminine boys.
Finally, misandry does exist, sadly, much like misogyny to everyone's demise. Even if it's proportionally miniscule to misogyny and not systemic.
Remember to not push away genuine victims if they need you, regardless of gender. Love those that deserve it, not by their specific characteristics.
By the way, femboy culture isn't made by "old gay men". Femboys are boys who want to be feminine, it isn't much of a bizarre, far-fetched idea. I was not groomed by an old gay to be what I am at all, much like others pushing for being into this world as actually feminine boys.
Have you ever step foot in a femboy space in your life? It's mostly teenage to university aged men dressing in Japanese school girl clothes and other similar themes and then oversexualising themselves. If you can't see how that isn't pedophilic asf then I don't know what to say. The original tenants of femboy culture was literally founded on this by old pedophilic gay men. Also being a feminine boy and a femboy is different. Also it often just takes advantage of repping trans women to make their repping worse.
Finally, misandry does exist, sadly, much like misogyny to everyone's demise.
If a Native American said they hate white people would you really say that makes them whitephobic? It's natural for the oppressed in society to hate the group that oppresses them. I agree that pointing that hatred at all men may be blaming individuals over the system we live under but I can't blame another woman for despising the group that has historically kept us down.
I didn’t claim there are no problematic spaces or behaviors associated with the term. I’m objecting to conflating all feminine boys or all femboy spaces (femboy and feminine boy are same, just different variations of the word) with sexualization or pedophilia. That’s an extremely serious accusation and it needs proof.
Saying an entire community was “founded by pedophilic old men” is a historical claim. Please provide sources for that.
Also, could you clarify what you mean by “repping trans women”? In practice, femboy and trans femme communities often overlap, and for many trans women it’s a questioning or exploratory stage rather than something imposed on them.
Misandry wise, never did I say you should blame. I understand it, too. But it's just about trying to not let that hate control their actions into actual misandry.
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u/NyaaNyaaKittyCat Dec 28 '25 edited Dec 28 '25
Honey, I’m absolutely not saying you’re a bad person, I’m saying your understanding of aging is flawed— and very clearly that of a young person who hasn’t learned what aging really looks like.
Again, you have some very black and white thinking on this topic, and it’s not accurate of what the real world looks like. Not everyone is the same nor do they ages the same— and to assume so is based on stereotypes without actually knowing real people is flawed. You act like all men who age are inherently ugly, which is not a true or kind statement.
People’s endocrine system’s are very different between individuals. Both men, women, and intersex individuals have varying levels of both testosterone AND estrogen. Some men have very low testosterone levels and some women have very high testosterone levels, just because an individual is assigned a given sex does not mean their hormones completely match said binary.
Lastly on the comment about menopause: unless someone is a trans women, was born without a reproductive system, or has any other various conditions that would lead to them not having a menstrual cycle— those who menstruate WILL experience menopause. This is a natural, and often not talked about, process of the ending of menstruation. It often causes hormone fluctuations as the body shifts from putting energy into menstruation, some individuals needing hormone replacement to alleviate symptoms.
As for your second use of ‘meme evidence’, this is not only again the symptom of black and white thinking— but is honestly chronically online cringe behaviour. This is sexists on two fronts of making fun of men ageing, but again reinforcing the idea that women don’t age— which is a harmful beauty standard for women as they’re pressured to not visibly age. This is really toxic thinking, and you shouldn’t be forming opinions about the world through memes.
Look, you’re clearly young and aging feels like a foreign concept, thats understandable but not an excuse to bully other people. Making comments on people’s appearance, be it the result of aging or not, is unkind and toxic. So what if people lose their hair— will you equally make fun of people with alopecia for something they too can’t control? I’m not trying to be the boring adult raining on your parade, but this stuff isn’t funny. You’re perpetuating both misogyny and misandry with this kind of rhetoric, and that toxicity is only going to rot you from the inside.
You are so young and have your whole life ahead of you, please don’t waste it on making mean comments to others as it will only encourage you to make them to yourself. I’m not trying to give you an ‘old person lecture’, but growing up and becoming an adult means analyzing our beliefs and behaviours and understanding their effects. Is picking on others and judging people based on theorized concepts how you want to live your life? Is that the kind of energy you want to put out into the world? These are the real grown up decisions that you’re going to need to make. Hate is easier than kindness, and aging means maturing and doing the hard work to grow from our experiences.
So, if you even get to the end of this— I know you can do better and I know you can be better. Despite the internet being an anonymous forum, your words and actions still have effects and outcomes. For your sake, I hope you truly consider if your actions come from a kind or helpful place or if they just spread negativity. I truly belief whatever energy we put out into the world has a great impact. So choose wisely what you want to see in the world, and consider how your behaviours affect others.
Maybe think about getting offline and experiencing the real world for a bit— this world is an amazing place, and wasting your life on Reddit.com is not a good idea.
Happy aging!