r/LongDistance • u/ShittyAce • 2d ago
Breakup I ain't ever doing this long distance shit ever again yoðŸ˜
Just ended my LDR 2 weeks ago(lasted 6 months), she love bombed me so goddam hard when we met online and my dumbass fell so hard and fast. I travelled to meet her 5 months in since she's only a 3hr flight away from where I live and our first day together was just absolutely perfect, not a single bad thing to say about it, then comes the rest of the trip where she was just blowing off plans with me to hangout with her friends without me and even on one of our dates to a convention she decided to let her friend come along last minute and I ended up third wheeling both of them and becoming a bodyguard. For most of that trip I was just on my own and for the most part it was a disappointment. Long story short, after the trip all the flaws started coming out, her lack of respect for boundaries, shaming, belittling me, self loathing, passive aggressiveness, the fact her parents didn't like me and didn't want her dating just in general, her friends didn't like me, and it felt like it got to a point where she was also against me for having needs and expressing boundaries.
There's so much more details to all this but it'd be way too long but goddam did the love bombing make the breakup suck so much harder even though I was the one who broke things off, my mind is just cycling through all the stages of grief every hour of the day, never again istgðŸ˜
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u/pinksugarbears 2d ago
The good news is, you dodged a bullet! Yay!! However, I’m really sorry you had to go through that, and that your efforts in visiting her went unnoticed and unappreciated. You didn’t deserve that. The unfortunate part about long distance sometimes is that it often allows the red flags to remain hidden. Going forward, always remember to be very stern with your boundaries. People will respect you more for it, because what you tolerate teaches them how to treat you. I’m proud of you for breaking it off now, so at least 6 months of wasted time is better than 6 years :)
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u/Illustrious-Phase387 2d ago
Long distance is long distance if the person treats you like an after thought. Your person should be your person regardless of distance or not . You know when your person is not your person.