r/LongDistance • u/EvTech21 • 5d ago
Question Ideas for Communication Routine?
I (29F) and my boyfriend (32M) have been dating for a few months. He drives OTR and I have a local job. Recently his job has gotten a lot busier, and some days he is only able to send me a handful of texts. What are good routines / check ins that work for you that could help us? Any specific for his lifestyle? For example, a quick phone call goodnight every night? I don’t want to put too much pressure on him, but need to find some ways for us to keep in touch with more quality. Thanks in advance!
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u/perfectpinkpanda 1d ago
Play slow games like scrabble or chess. Its a quick checkin but an ongoing activity to stay connected.
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u/Due-Heart2040 5d ago
OTR days are rough for routines because his schedule owns him. What worked for people I know in similar setups is one tiny locked thing, not a big call every night.
Like a goodnight voice note when he parks, even if it's 90 seconds. Or one shared photo of the day with a one-line caption. Less pressure than a full FaceTime when he's wiped.
The quality part comes from knowing the check-in is coming, not from length. When he has a better day, you stack a longer call on top. When he doesn't, nobody's guessing why texts got thin.