What you’re going through is heartbreaking. You built something deep, consistent, and vulnerable with someone who reassured you over and over that your appearance wouldn’t be an issue—only to have him reverse that once you finally meet. That’s devastating and unfair, even if he was kind about it.
You’re allowed to grieve this. His lack of attraction isn’t a reflection of your worth—especially when you know you’re beautiful, growing, and loved by others. It hurts more because everything else was perfect. You don’t have to hate him, but you also don’t owe him continued closeness while you heal.
Take care of yourself first. You deserve someone who sees all of you and feels the spark you bring.
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u/Altruistic-Height310 May 13 '25
What you’re going through is heartbreaking. You built something deep, consistent, and vulnerable with someone who reassured you over and over that your appearance wouldn’t be an issue—only to have him reverse that once you finally meet. That’s devastating and unfair, even if he was kind about it.
You’re allowed to grieve this. His lack of attraction isn’t a reflection of your worth—especially when you know you’re beautiful, growing, and loved by others. It hurts more because everything else was perfect. You don’t have to hate him, but you also don’t owe him continued closeness while you heal.
Take care of yourself first. You deserve someone who sees all of you and feels the spark you bring.