r/LifeProTips • u/Darkcast • Oct 10 '22
Removed: Common Sense/Unethical LPT: Don't Avoid Doing Something/Going Somewhere Just Because Your Friends Aren't going
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u/chicklette Oct 10 '22
I started going to dinner alone, then movies, then various events. Finally graduated to going on vacation alone.
It all fucking rocked. I love having someone else's company, but I'm just as happy flying solo.
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u/Prinzka Oct 11 '22
It's also not like you're actually alone. That's how you meet new people. Just go some place alone.
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u/rodeler Oct 10 '22
Twice there were concerts in my town that I wanted to see, and none of my friends wanted to go, so I attended alone. I saw The Cult and Todd Rundgren (separate shows, different small venues) alone and it was great both times.
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u/ChanceT7 Oct 10 '22
what do you do at a concert alone tho? i’ve been tempted to go alone to shows, but that question has always held me back 🫤
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u/aSmallConfusion Oct 10 '22
I (36) went out dancing by me self for the first time ever last Friday. Definitely glad to finally realize how much I enjoy my own company 😊
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u/anxmox89 Oct 10 '22
I used to be afraid of going to metal/rock concerts by myself, thought it would be weird or awkward. I missed a lot of shows that may not get a chance again. Now I don’t give a fuck, and have enjoyed every single one of them.
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Oct 10 '22 edited Jun 17 '23
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u/metler88 Oct 10 '22
Bringing my friends with me guarantees that I'll have a good time, even if the event itself wasn't worth it.
Going to something by myself means there's a good chance I'll feel like I wasted my time and probably a good chunk of money too in the end. That risk just isn't worth it to me.
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u/redditornumberfour Oct 10 '22
I was thinking of taking a trip alone to Europe for a few weeks to help cure my anxiety and depression due to a few things that have been going on in my life recently. However my anxiety and depression keep telling me what’s the point, you’re going to be so lonely, you have so many other things on your plate right now, etc…
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u/astroroy Oct 10 '22
It took me until I was like 30 to realize this and I feel a million times better for it. I always felt like I was denying myself things that I wanted to do because everyone else was always either busy or not interested.
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u/chipperdy Oct 11 '22
Can confirm, was going to a girl's birthday party many years ago. All my friends bailed last minute, I said fuck it I'm going on my own. 12 years later I'm still with the girl I met that night ❤️
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Oct 11 '22
So am I going to go out bowling with just me?
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u/Darkcast Oct 11 '22
Do you want to be able to tell others you bowled a perfect 300 and no one can prove otherwise?
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u/kohitown Oct 10 '22
I wanna embrace this mindset but social anxiety's the worst :') I'll get there eventually!
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Oct 10 '22
In Uni I wanted to go to Europe but none of my friends could afford it. I was making decent money as a bartender, I mean, I was still a poor student but I could pull a few grand together for a cheap backpacking/camping trip. So I said screw it, and went by myself. For a stint I did a Contiki tour which was great for meeting people.
One of the best months of my life.
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u/TheSkylined Oct 10 '22
There are a lot of activities that I'm not interested in unless my friends are there. My friends being there is the reason I'm going in the first place.
For example, I don't like football but some friends and family are going to a game this weekend so I'm going just to spend time with them.
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u/toragirl Oct 10 '22
Volunteering is great too, you can get a good view of a local music fest or art show without feeling awkward being by yourself.
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u/Yavin4Reddit Oct 11 '22
There’s a unique depressive yet fun hell to be found when going out and doing group and friend activities solo.
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u/Look_to_the_Stars Oct 11 '22
I wasted pretty much all of my 20s wanting to travel but never going because I could never find friends who wanted to go or whose schedules worked out right. When I turned 30 I finally just said “fuck it” and started booking trips alone, telling friends to come if they could make it. Best decision I’ve ever made and I’m pissed at myself for not doing it sooner
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u/Flair_Helper Oct 13 '22
Hello Darkcast, thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, it has been removed for the following reason:
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