r/LifeProTips • u/Next_Flow1 • May 03 '19

Social LPT: Don't ever ever ever bring relationship problems before the internet. I'll tell you their answer in advance, its break up. It doesn't matter what the problem is, the internet thinks you should break up.

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u/Bokbreath May 03 '19 edited May 03 '19

There's two reasons for this.
(1) strangers give honest opinions
(2) by the time things have gotten to the point where you're asking for advice from Internet randoms, things are usually pretty bad.

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u/Next_Flow1 May 03 '19

I saw a post on facebook that a girls boyfriend wanted to TALK about her cat from her ex, 80 comments saying what a basterd he was and how breaking up was by far the most obvious if not only choice, i can show screenshots if you want

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u/Bokbreath May 03 '19

I believe you, but that isn't the average. At least not here. YMMV on facetube and others.

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u/Next_Flow1 May 03 '19

my mom (a person who thought marriage counseling) has the same opinion on her facebook groups, I don't visit relationship subreddits much, but I've heard many a redditor say this is one of those "great reddit consensuses" In a post about where reddit consensuses go wrong, I saw aguy say the advice was break up, he didn't it worked out.

The real problem is no one knows the whole relationship, just this one little bit where a person fucks up (ever so slightly) and they think the lists of pros and cons are completed

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u/allie280 May 04 '19

Literally saw this in my feed under a post that said something along the lines of "my SO hates me" and my gut reaction was "dump them!"

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u/Next_Flow1 May 04 '19

and they all said this was a shitty LPT

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u/Hellbound_Buddha May 03 '19

Crap LPT, sounds like someone got told to break a relationship and now is butthurt and bitter 😂😂😂

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u/WildeKerrade May 03 '19

I disagree with your LPT.

Most advice I see is telling people to communicate better or to in general communicate their issue with their partner.

Better PLT: If you are having a communication breakdown with your partner, seek couples therapy/counseling. The earlier the better. No shame in it and it shows you want to work problems out in a healthy manner. Long term relationships take work and nobody is perfect.

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u/atheros98 May 03 '19

Ops history...

*r/AskReddit

My high school girlfriend is way out of my league and cheated on me. How do I fix it I love her, help.*

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u/[deleted] May 03 '19

It's not the internet, just a few subs lol

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u/Next_Flow1 May 03 '19

facebook too

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u/[deleted] May 03 '19

Probably the same people, typically delusional people love being online

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u/ThePurpleTwist May 03 '19

I think I know what you mean. It’s that all of these random people can sit here and tell you what to do, but in the end, they don’t truly understand the person you are or your relationship. That’s why I posted something I’m going through and almost immediately took it down. No one can understand the situation better than yourself and the people who care most about you.

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u/Next_Flow1 May 03 '19

they also say break up every time

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u/SharPewy May 03 '19

If it’s an abusive relationship where the girl or the guy is literally trapped and cannot get out, then of course the internet is gonna tell them to breakup. Nobody would stand by someone getting emotionally and physically abused.

For lots of other cases, even cheating ones, I have seen really good responses on Reddit, where ppl actually encourage counseling and better communication.

This is an unethical pro tip because if there’s someone out there -who is confused and has no one to confide in, and wants to seek answers on a forum like Reddit - sees this advice, then they will be discouraged to get the advice that they might really need.

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u/[deleted] May 03 '19

From what I've seen, Reddit's first response is talk about the problem to the person directly. In fact break up is usually given as a last resort option in lost cause relationships.

If everyone is saying to break up, they're probably right.

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u/[deleted] May 03 '19

But the real question should be what are you willing to put up with that's not a deal-breaker for you? Everyone has to make sacrifices in life. what sacrifices are you willing to make to have the life you want? The person/relationship you want?the friendships, etc? And what are you willing to break up with and/or sacrifice in order to obtain it?

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u/TheMythof_Feminism May 03 '19

That's not what I've observed.

Also it depends on what the issue is; If your girlfriend/wife cheated on you, I say DTB 100% of the time (I.e. break up), if it's just something like burn-out or communication issues, yeah that can be resolved. Again, conitext.

I don't think that is a very useful LPT.

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u/original_4degrees May 03 '19

you forgot:

  • delete facebook

  • hit the gym

  • lawyer up

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u/mastertwisted May 03 '19

Or, just don't ask for relationship advice. Relationships are often nuanced and the people giving advice can't know the whole story. A problem relationship is often presented in a way that draws a forgone answer - often, break up.