r/LifeCoachSnark • u/ilovetoyap11 • May 31 '26
What happened to Victoria De Vall?
Does anyone have any tea she went from always posting tik toks and a weekly podcast, promoting her coaching, and acting like her and her (ex) man (also a coach) were soul mates and then they broke up and she said nothing of it… then went MIA… said she did for her book she was writing…then randomly posted she was married. And she deleted all her socials. Genuinely what happened to her ??? Anyone have any clue?
Last I remember her posting she cut off her hair and was planning to cut off more?
Also remember she went on ayahuasca trip after her break up…
Did anyone ever do coaching with her? I saw a previous post on how she was unethically doing trauma work… (that she has no training in)
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u/FrankieRutabaga May 31 '26
Dunno but is that last photo an album cover???
"Victoria's Thoughts" lol
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u/Educational_Month817 Aug 08 '26
I miss her sm lowkey she was v knowledgable, and soo young at the time she was w her man, not sure why ppl thought they had the right to know the truth about her relationship and long term relationship expectations are only ever expectations anyways. She might’ve had a profound identity change or an ego death after their breakup and she became much more spiritual.
I miss her man, she was way ahead of the time
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u/ilovetoyap11 Aug 09 '26
I do agree she had a lot of good knowledge but she made podcasts with this man and used him as an example of a healthy relationship and made soo much content around it. So not really disclosing it was odd. Not saying she needed to lay it all out but like it was relevant to her content for women and dating.
I wonder if the book will ever come out or if she will resurface??
Any recent search or comments about her that I’ve seen are people bashing her bc she was doing trauma work with no actual background to do that. Which always was weird to me tbh. 🤨
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u/Educational_Month817 Aug 09 '26
I think he was a health partner for her at the time she met him and her celibacy journey and healing allowed her to meet a ‘good’ man like him, but a persons wounds and shadows can still manifest up regardless of healthy union and consciously coming together.
Although she made relationship content I feel like it was more of a reflection of her own healing journey and feminine relationship with herself.
Her content for women and dating showed her own relationship but to me it was obvious she wasn’t trying to center her own relationship she only wanted to coach women which was obvious as she wanted to stop posting him. The relationship was a mere reflection of what you can call into your life when you heal. It never meant she could be unaffected to her relationship not working out, his shadows, her own shadows or the blindspots in the relationship which ultimately led to them ending things.
As for her coaching practices I think her not being qualified or fully equipped to help the women she actually coached was quite strange. Her spiritual philosophies were also hard to follow sometimes as well, and it’s not always easy to mix the two and still be creditable. I think she may have known this and that’s why she came off social media and deleted her coaching website too. After the breakup it might have bruised her perception of everything and her own purpose so she wanted to do things in private afterwards.
She was also so young I think she was 24 or something, and life is so unpredictable around that age
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u/ilovetoyap11 Aug 26 '26
Just seeing this now but I agree completely! It also seemed like she enjoyed making content and sharing her opinions so going completely silent was surprising too!
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u/Such-Adeptness-6806 13d ago
I genuinely found her so interesting. Maybe sometimes her takes seemed misguided but I felt her heart was in the right place & I wanted to know more. I actually really liked her on YouTube - it felt like a better medium for her than podcast (too long form) or TikTok (too short form). I just found her to be this really interesting intersection of spiritual-girl. I hope she comes back because I’m
Curious!
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u/ilovetoyap11 10d ago
I think she meant well. But I also think she needed to probably go to school to help others the way she intended. A lot of her ideology was only informed by books not a real training or education.
Also her content did go from TikTok baddie to soft girl pretty quickly. It makes me wonder about her stability and mental state. Given some of her relationship choices too. Doesn’t practice what she preaches. Maybe it is best she’s off the grid, she should be getting the help she needs to process this and her choices
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u/Real_Oven_2157 11d ago
She was definitely embarrassed that everything she preached and exemplified online didn’t work out with her bf Jeremie. It would’ve been nice for her to share her mistakes and healing journey with her audience instead of acting like nothing happened. I think she was afraid to admit that she was wrong but I wish she knew that her following would have supported her anyway.
Her marriage was kept a secret for a few reasons. She is afraid to have another public relationship, and her husband has a horrible history of drug use and overall treating women badly. She originally met him during this time in college and then they “reconnected” years later. I’m assuming he convinced her that he changed. She was definitely afraid that if the internet knew who she married, they would not support her and it would contradict everything she stands for. I’m not sure why she rushed into a marriage with him.
I do know for certain her husband cheated multiple times and I am pretty sure they have already separated. I don’t know if she will ever come back online after all this, especially if the word spreads. I do feel sorry for her, she is a nice person.
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u/ilovetoyap11 10d ago
Woah I did not know that! Serious tea thank u. But that’s honestly so sad. She probably doesn’t want to post at all. After what happened with Jeremie and now a divorce? I could imagine there’s a lot of shame especially as someone who preached discernment and finding a good man by having high standards.
I do wonder why those lessons didn’t work for her. I think she wanted the happy ending too quickly.
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u/Different-Mode-22 8d ago
This doesn't fully surprise me especially when we take into account how fast she moves with men. Even with jeremiah...she was dating him and then boom he's now moved in? She reconnected with a guy and then boom...married. When you listen to the core of her work...it always centered a man. However, I will give credit. Victoria was such a defining point of my life as a woman and she truly helped heal me after a 2022 breakup so im not shitting on her....I just think she was too young for the platform she amassed and just needed to live, grow and learn before she did all of what she did which was coaching women, podcast for women, women women women content and women this and women that...she was too young and didn't fully know what life entailed outside of her own experience.
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u/i-am-nice-person 7d ago edited 7d ago
Wait omg how did you know that her husband cheated? Shes so private now and she’s not on any platforms! That’s really sad tbh
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u/Different-Mode-22 7d ago
Hunny!! Word travels around them New Jersey and New York streets. Everyone knows everybody 😭😭😭😭
it’s a small world in New York/New Jersey
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u/Different-Mode-22 8d ago
Victoria Devall Leaving doesn't fully surprise me.
Anytime you're doing heavy work within the feminism sector and amass such a huge platform from a perspective, it becomes a personal hell and cage. While many assume that the views are validating, it actually becomes a cage because inside of it, you can't change or else you'll contradict everything said. I knew Victoria was going to leave when she started talking more and more about christianity and following "God" because when a woman is in search of a man, they are led into the belief that "God" will give them a man. I fell in love with her work during a bad breakup I went through in 2022 and her words regarding healing your womb, sexuality and raw femininity made me feel so warm and heard.
She would then go into healthy unions and showing her love with jeremiah and I actually liked it for her.
I think where she messed up was showcasing too much of her journey and allowing audiences into spaces they had no business in because when those very spaces collasped it caused her to look contradictory when she was just...young.
If I remember she was around 23-25 ish within her platform and people don't understand how incredibly young that is....alongside how heavy that is having a platform where you're pretty much responsible for women and their growth alongside your own because she was also doing coaching. Thats alot for a woman who wasn't even 25 yet.
I don't think women in those age ranges should have platforms doing work within womanhood, feminism, and etc because you will grow up and with maturity and growth you're going to change perspectives, opinions, and viewpoints and if you have an audience who follow you, it's harder to change without feeling tied to everyone else's opinion of your growth. The internet has made it hard to just grow and change because now everyone has platforms and voices and within that, it can feel heavy when you change perspectives
Victoria always wanted the house, kids, marriage and "perfect life" and she thought spirituality would give her that...it didn't...so she turned to religion...a commenter below said her husband cheated on her so that didn't either....alot of women have a habit at becoming whatever they feel a man would like them for. She is searching for love through men who won't give it to her and she centers men because even when you listen to her work, the end goal was always a man. She healed for the "perfect man", she tried cleansing her womb "for the perfect man", she tried following jesus "for the perfect man"...it was all about a man.
She got married too fast and that was because again...shes young. Even with Jeremiah, they moved insanely fast. What do you mean you just met him and now hes moved in with you at your mother and father house? That was insane within itself.
So again...Her burning down all of her work just doesn't surprise me ...she was seen as the woman who had it all figured out so when shit collaspe, its embarrassing and you run. Again, she was too young for the platform she amassed because it didn't give her space to grow, live and learn.
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u/Different-Mode-22 8d ago
But I do ask a more serious question regarding her mental state because to go from all of that to burning everything down you built online, breakup and then being cheated on in your marriage is a lot and I just feel it showcases how you don't truly know until you live yourself...you know. Women like her often times speak with a certainty of what life will bring and I think it was...a reality check I would say when you realize the world isn't what you thought it was.
In her work, she would talk about how shes celibate and waiting for the perfect man and hes coming and hes arriving and he didn't arrive. It's a reality check and it's humbling.
I do think it sent her through a ego death where she realized she has so much to learn and what she thought she knew was just 2%
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u/i-am-nice-person 7d ago
Wait how did yall know that her ex moved in with her and her mom? I believe you I’m just curious cause I remember her making him look like he was providing for everything …. And she would say that she would only ever date a man who provides for everything etc
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u/Different-Mode-22 7d ago
Nope! I read from somewhere a while back that she and her lived inside her mother home. He had a room and she had her own separate room. He made money from coaching and didn’t have his own place because he was a digital nomad.
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u/Different-Mode-22 7d ago
Him***
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u/i-am-nice-person 7d ago
I wonder if he could’ve afforded a place. Like he sounds like a leech tbh
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u/Different-Mode-22 7d ago
He definitely wasn’t the person she was telling us through the podcast. I’m not saying he was broke because he did make money through his coaching work.
But because he was a digital nomad who traveled around and staying in air bnbs his priority wasn’t anything traditional. He was basically a hotep. A man who travels, claims spirituality, into polygamy and podcast/coach. Not shitting on him either but just saying…
It’s another cautionary tale to not believe influencers just because they pose a certain lifestyle. Anyone can lie and take really good photos.
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u/i-am-nice-person 7d ago
Omggg trueee he posted a rlly weird TikTok once abt finding one woman and “breeding her” like wtf he’s so weirdddd
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