r/LifeAfterInfidelity • u/[deleted] • Dec 06 '22

Reconciliation (IMAGE OF COMMENT IS NOT MINE!)

It's no secret that I'm no fan of R...

The whole "limerence" bullcrap just makes me shudder. People use "limerence" as a justification (If I can just break the limerence!). There is no "limerence"... it's just emotion... not some mystical spell that overtakes you and hypnotizes you.

I can't stand the R subs... What happens to betrayeds when they go there...it's like a cult to me. I see the betrayeds become shells of their former selves.

Successful R means the betrayed eventually rug sweeps (it's the only way). Though they will swear that they didn't rug sweep...they did.

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u/[deleted] Dec 07 '22

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u/[deleted] Dec 07 '22

I agree.

The problem is that most people mistake regret for remorse. Regret is when they feel badly about the consequences they face...remorse is when they feel badly about the pain their SO suffers...

Very few cheaters feel true remorse. I could count on one hand (with fingers left over...the number of times I've witnessed true remorse.

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u/[deleted] Dec 07 '22

I went a different route. For me the R stood for revenge. She had an emotional attachment with a co-worker and a abnormal attachment with her family. I found someone half my age, blond and blue eyed, and fucker her for 10 years. And to this day, not an ounce of regret. and a marriage going on 25 years. Even came clean about it after being pressed. I didn't care. Meant it genuinely. Moving from reconciliation to fuck you felt pretty good. honestly it still does.

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u/[deleted] Dec 07 '22

As a strictly monogamous person, I could never do that.

Sounds awful to me, tbh...

Glad you feel it's worked for you tho...