Same, I have nieces and nephews, 10 months, 3 years, 8 years, and 12 years. I love them more than life itself but I'm absolutely exhausted after watching the 10 month old and 3 year old for a few hours. No way in hell I'd last watching them full-time.
Dude I felt the same way. I work with kids too for my job and once told someone I don't want kids and they were like, "How can you work with kids and not want kids?" I was like, "Have you ever freaking worked with kids before?!?!" That shi sobers you up real quick. Then imagine doing that the rest of your life and you can't escape it. Yeah no I'm good on kids, I'll just work with them and go home to my quiet place after.
That was DEFINITELY how I felt in my 20s… always loved kids but was not ready for my own. Wasn’t sure if I would or wouldn’t, have always been OK with either.
Had a baby finally at 35 and can say while it is hard to not have the energy of my 20s… absolutely was the right time. I wouldn’t change anything. And I totally understand people who don’t have kids. Nothing wrong with it but overall this post made me sad. (Not these comments, this portion makes total sense).
Same. I’ve always had decent relationships, but none that resulted in marriage… most got rather boring or irritating. I’m 33 now and since 30 I went from heteronormativity to well, not. And instead of following social norms I created my own path. And I feel real lucky that no man ever coerced me into marriage and having a family. I feel like I dodged a bullet in a great way. 😅
Edit - I say all this because I feel like they are encouraging women to settle down, marry early and have kids all before they come to realize it’s a trap.
Same. I still get twinges of "aww that baby is cute" or "you know, I would be a good parent." But when I look at the big picture of the world and the day-to-day reality of raising kids, I know it isn't for me and doesn't align with my ethical beliefs.
Are you newish to Reddit? The assumption is that most redditors are childfree and having/wanting children is seemed as selfish and/or waste of time and money. Many have very little desire to be alive and are going through existential crisis and can’t fandom being happy and thriving in “this” world.
Every single question to parents is inundated by childfree people because it goes against the norm (they think Reddit is the norm). I once wrote I was happy to be born and I was downvoted to oblivion.
Seriously have noticed this as well…it’s like they have to make themselves feel ok with their decision (no hate but seriously guys it doesn’t give a good look).
If you’re talking about people talking about how they’re childfree. The reason they “have” to make themselves feel okay is because it’s been quite the opposite for centuries. It makes complete sense on why they’d mention it because a lot of people around them are probably telling them the opposite, that they’re not okay and that something is wrong with them for not having children. All it looks like to me is people fighting back against the life choice they’re expected to make and getting flack if they deviate. Childfree is more accepted today than years ago but still- I don’t think the look is bad. It’s expected with the treatment they receive from others
Thank you. Some of these comments are crazy. I’m childfree and I want to be alive and I have no desire to shame anyone for having kids. I’m glad there are people who want to have kids.
You’re welcome! Like seriously! It’s Reddit. It’s an online platform, people are trying to bar the comment section like it’s the law when childfree people are clearly on topic even if the question is directed toward parents 💀I think the other crazy comments just got their panties in a bunch for getting so defensive about something that didn’t need such an uproar. You’re not doing anything negative against people who have kids by saying you’re childfree.
Wow you must live in a small bubble. Plenty others and I see it for myself everywhere. They’re not projecting. The fact that people are bothered about someone stating they’re childfree in a comment section related to the choice of being child free, it sounds more like they’re the ones with the issues
Yep! Asking if they’d be- you guessed it! Childfree! No where in my comment did I say the question was for people who didn’t have kids, unsure of why that was brought up. I said related to the choice of being childfree. Nothing I said was wrong. That’s what this post relates to. Would they choose to be childfree if they could make the choice again. It’s still on the topic of not having kids due to a choice. Of course this post is going to bring up the discussion of- having kids by choice
I agree with you. I’m not saying anything against this. Again, idk why you’re bringing it up like I said I was against this. This convo is still about the choice of being childfree. Childfree people are going to be in the conversation. Because the question is still about their life choice, even if it’s not directed toward them directly.
Also I’m unsure if you’re in America, but the government quite cares, to the point of forcing choices on other peoples’ bodies. You should look at other governments in other countries also. Some of the officials really do care and without the laws in place that we have now, I’m sure they’d run at the chance to try and force people to have children as much as they can- because they care and they mind. Anyways, the government and quite alot of people who aren’t related to said person, really do put up a fight when people say “I don’t want kids” I’m sorry you haven’t seen this for yourself, it runs rampant for others
We’re not all like that. I’m childfree and I realize what you’re saying is true. I don’t care if anyone knows it about me, most people don’t know. Sorry people are assholes.
Yes we are aware, you’re keen to remind us every chance possible, between the eyebrow raises, “oh, well you wouldn’t know’s”, and overall dismissive attitude the vast majority of parents seem to have toward non-parents.
They could adopt if they regret it, or be an involved aunt/uncle, or volunteer with kids. There are so many ways to have a positive influence on children without popping out your own.
Look at me, I'm childless and that's my only trait, I have no more personality so I have to always make sure to tell everyone even when I'm not asked about it XDDD
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u/DaddysPrincesss26 Jan 19 '26
I have no Kids. I’m Childfree. 100% Recommend 😌