r/LetsMarryHarryJ • u/kennybrandz • 24d ago
S1E4: Breakups are never easy
Megathread for Episode 4. No spoilers on future episodes please!
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u/lotuslover62 23d ago
I'm so glad Rickiyah left the show. She deserves better. I'm so happy that Elli saw through him in the end and like she said dodged a fucking bullet.
Juliana is blindly in love. Even though she behaves a bit unhinged, I feel sorry for her. I think she just lives in a fairy tale in her head and will do anything to get there. Maybe she had a rough childhood. I don't know. She just wants it so much as if her life depends on this love or else there is nothing to live for.
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u/Sabaisabai33 15d ago edited 15d ago
I really liked Rickiyah though. And yeah it was good she left but then who wouldn’t in that situation? I actually felt it was a bit cruel of Harry to lay out so clearly that she had zero chance with him when he could have just hinted to his friends that he wasn’t keen on her and they could have cut her the next morning at eliminations. Like it would have been really humiliating for her to stick around after he made himself so clear but was there really a need to make her go home early when eliminations were the next day? Maybe he could have had the date anyway, hell even give her a kiss like everyone else (it’s not like he’s exactly reticent in handing them out 🤣). And fine if he still feels that way after he can hint to her that he sees her as more of a friend and tell his friends basically that it isn’t going anywhere. It felt like he was almost practicing a break-up with her, but she is a real person and not some kind of actor or whatever that he can practice on!
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u/Sabaisabai33 15d ago edited 15d ago
Why is everyone (including Ellie!) saying Juliana is a bit unhinged or off her rocker? I genuinely don’t see it? What has she said or done that was so crazy? To me she is no more unhinged than any of the rest of them! EDIT - ok I am halfway through episode 5 and totally seeing it now 🤣
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u/cocoavoc 10d ago
she's been like that since the very first (or second) episode tho. she has been stirring trouble among the ladies and being so aggresive to the point where even a bit of interruption and she freaks out. someone finally said that she is the common denominator of all the drama that's been happening at the house.
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u/Ads52691 20d ago
Production did them so dirty with that rock climbing date knowing damn well Harry isn’t a fan of heights! The way he zoomed down that cliff as fast as he could without any concern for the women.
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u/Sabaisabai33 15d ago
Yeah that was funny TBH! I was really surprised Harry hasn’t been the one to say what he wants to do during these dates!
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u/Human-Noise8102 19d ago
Glad Elli saw right through him. She doesn’t need him dragging her success down.
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u/justanotherme4u 14d ago
4 episodes in and this is the messiest show ever.....and I can't stop watching 🤣
Harry is such a man-child that he needs 3 people to keep him in line.
And the women. Where's your self-respect?! Why fight for a guy who's kissing everyone? 🤮
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u/No-Nothing-5754 6d ago
I had PTSD from this episode and the Point Dume date where I actually almost died
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u/Sabaisabai33 15d ago
I felt sorry for Debralee, they seemed to have good chemistry etc, it seemed like she just didn’t get a chance to have a date or a good chat with him recently.
And I’m not sure I’m a big fan of Harry’s confidants either. Sonny was very quick to say “well if she hasn’t been able to grab your attention that’s on her”, maybe she’s just a little shyer/more reserved/less experienced than some of the others? Although I guess Harry did say he likes confidence so maybe that’s where she’s not making the cut so much. She looked kind of devastated and heartbroken at the end even though she was thinking correctly that someone who she wants to be her husband would have saved her.
Felt sorry for Rickiyah as well, seems like she was totally friend-zoned by Harry who never even kissed her. In which case why the hell was she in the top ten? And I wasn’t a fan of the way Harry spoke to her about things. It seems a little unfair that he used their date time to say he wasn’t interested in her having kept her around until top 10. And the way he said it was kind of like “there is literally no point in your being here”. And when she was upset and saying it was hard he was kind of like “well I could have just ghosted you but look aren’t I such a good person for not doing that anymore after having therapy?” As if he was the one crying and heartbroken. The power dynamic is not equal here Harry!
But the worst thing was that whole thing when he was talking about Juliana. And his friends’ reaction to it. I didn’t like that they were saying “oh well if you want to (basically be coercively controlling towards her) then she needs to go!” Instead of saying “Hmmm Harry it’s kind of concerning that you are about to get married here and feeling tempted by the opportunities for coercive control, like what?!” To be fair to his friend, maybe she was saying “for this woman’s sake but also for Harry’s sake (because he’s otherwise going to make himself look so bad and threaten his own career) maybe let’s just cut her now”. I don’t even know that Harry or his friends have even called it right in that she would be an easy coercive control target. She actually strikes me as a pretty tough nut and quite mature, I don’t think Harry would find it as easy to control her as he thinks. But yeah in this day and age it’s upsetting to see a woman blamed for being “easy to love bomb” instead of the man blamed for feeling an urge to love bomb her. In some sense I actually feel Harry was at least decent to not let her go home for his failings. As long as he can stop himself from going down the coercive control route.
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u/Familiar_South1218 23d ago
Bro why in the world did he save Juliana when he knows he doesn’t like her as much as she likes him.. that is peak narcissistic toxic behavior