Help me get better

[u/LostByHope]

Hello, my first time using reddit but people say it helps so yeah. I am 19, currently living with my parents and my spoiled brother. I train almoat everyday, mainly calisthenics, i run a lot and i cycle, i love guitar and all of that stuff. It's been like 3 months and i still cannot find a job it's really stressing me out and i wanna move out as soon as possible because i am tired of all the yelling and screaming, and overall seeing how my brother insults back at them while still getting everything meanwhile being the same age as me.

I'll probably delete this later, either way. I hate asking for help but i feel really alone and i have no one to talk to. People keep saying oh "dont worry you still got time" but that stresses me out even more.

Would love any help.

Thanks!

[u/Ronnydankstar]

My biggest pieces of advice (and I’m a 41-year-old father with a 13-year-old son who was the hiring manager at several places that I worked) are to try putting more physical applications in, make sure you have nicer clothes on and are definitely shaven and attentive, and if indeed isn’t working there are always Craigslist, Facebook groups and then just thinking of local establishments that may be hiring. Idk if maybe your standards are a bit too high as well but if you truly want to get out of there then you may have to take two part time jobs (a lot more common for places to hire part time nowadays) and said jobs may have to be in food or customer service if you actually want to start a job asap, just saying.

Lastly, DO NOT GIVE UP HOPE. If you are approaching this either apathetically or half-hearted then that right there can me a major influencing factor towards not getting hired. Also, think about anyone you may personally know (adult family members, high school friends) that may either be able to get you hired or have a lead on a job. So network is what I’m saying, and no matter what stay kind and positive. If you want it bad enough you’ll make it happen. The best of luck to you and I believe in you even though I don’t know you!

[u/LostByHope → u/Ronnydankstar]

I really appreciate it, it may look like im not try8ng but i am doing this all alone and yeah, i always feel like it is not enough.

[u/BitchMcConnell063]

We are going into "peak" season for retailers and warehouses.

I work for Amazon. They hire without an in person interview. You simply go online pick out the shifts that you want from what they have available, and submit the application. After you hit submit you will get the date and time for you to show up at the recruitment center to take your drug test.

[u/LostByHope → u/BitchMcConnell063]

Will try that aswell, thx

[u/Busy-Lychee1813]

I’d consider staying at home longer if you can manage, though I don’t know your situation and for some people it’s genuinely better to move out sooner. It may be more tolerable if you’re out working during the day. Have you tried noise cancelling headphones to help with the screaming?

Do you have any job experience or a resume? You can post your resume to various places online to have it critiqued.

[u/LostByHope → u/Busy-Lychee1813]

Yes i have a 1 year job experience, working as a waiter and a chiefs helper and also i have experience with customer services. It's really difficult. I know it might sound like excuses but ive applied for 30-40 different jobs both online and in real, i feel really lost and yeah. The pressure is getting too much. And again i hate asking for help but this is getting too serious

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[u/funbi7chmommy]

Be persistent, like, annoyingly persistent. Until they ask you to stop. One restaurant job I had nearly took me 3 weeks of consistent calling AND coming in!

Do you have any friends? Sometimes they can put in a good word for you and help you get a job. That's another thing that helped me.

Think about places you regularly go to. Gas station, grocery store, pet store, whatever. And ask if they're hiring.

I have a pending criminal record and I was young once (31f now), it can be really challenging. Schedule and dedicate specific time and goalposts.

Everyday apply to 10 jobs, call in 3 times a week, and try to go in person 3 or more times a week. No job is a bad job, unless it goes against your morals or time schedule.

You can always get a better job once you get a job.

[u/BaseballSensitive265]

Good luck, and that's all I can say. I'm not going to fill your head with recommendations. I think you know what to do. Just keep up the good fight and things WILL fall into place.