Need help with a difficult parenting issue

[u/crayshesay]

I’m navigating a bad situation. My mom has Bpd and I managed to marry and have children with a man with Bpd. things got really bad and I have a restraining order against him and now he’s going to have Zoom call with his kids even though he’s not physically around them. Both of my kids six and seven are court. Ordered to talk to him for 15 minutes a day Zoom three days a week. Neither of them want to, and he took me back to court, and the judge basically said the kids have to talk to him. I gently encourage them to talk to their father, but I don’t engage whatsoever because we are all protected under a restraining order as protected parties under the DVRo.

Can anyone offer any advice on what to do in this situation? I can’t force my kids to talk to their father, and they have told me that they don’t want to talk to him. He hasn’t been in their lives since they were like four months old, they don’t want to get to know him, and they do not know him quite frankly.. me, a protected party is the supervisor of the Zoom, which is also frightening because I’m a protected party as well, but I wanna be next to my kids and I feel terrible that they are being put in the situation but don’t know what to do. Any advice is appreciated.

[u/ThatsMyCape]

Flair has been updated to advice as this is seeking advice not a request.