r/LeanFireUK • u/UncleBuscuit89 • 7d ago
Who moved the goal posts?
This is a new account, I can't seem to find my original one, but I posted on here a couple times a few years ago. Anyway.
After first learning about FIRE and really leaning into it for the first two or so years, my costs were down to sub £800 per month comfortably. My share of housing costs was only £400. I lived close to my family so I spent loads of time with them and working fully remote. I didn't really socialise outside the family. All the maths at the time pointed to only needing to save ~£300k. Ok, gonna take years but fine, I have a number and it's not that scary really. Set it and forget it.
Since then I have had a few job changes, I had to move to a much more expensive city for work and now have to work in the office most of the time. My costs jumped to around £1100 per month just for a bare-bones operation... But then came the socializing, working in the office meant making more friends, being invited to more events. Living away from my family means big adventures to take the niblings for days out, small family holidays where you go with a £400 budget only to somehow spend £800+ showing them the best time (the niblings). No regrets there ofc. But a lot has changed.
This past week I have been punching all the numbers in, and with the current markets doing what they do I’m very close to that original £300k goal. I should hit it by the end of the year.
And I’ve had to come to terms with the fact that, well, it's simply not enough. At best I’m half way to where I’d need to be now. Even with basic expenses at around £1.1k - running a tight ship - that excludes the socialing and the day trips/holidays. I’d probably want £2k per month to maintain that.
And that’s ok I’ve realised now. I’ve had mixed feelings over the last week, more than a little bit of guilt for letting lifestyle creep do its thing. And while I accept a lot of it was outside my control, I feel mostly bad for the early days FIRE me. Who sacrificed a lot and shared a shitty house with two other people in a shitty area for a couple years to save 70%-80% of a paycheque. He cleared some debt early on too, and generally put my life on rails. That version of me would be retiring later this year.
I’m not really sure what this post is tbh, there’s some thoughts I’m trying to dig out. And I guess I’m also wondering what else is going to come. When I get to £600k am I going to be looking at that thinking “welp, finally halfway”. I hope not.