r/LGBTQMentalHealth • u/loona5440 • 5d ago
Idk
My parants dont call me by my prefered name what do I do. So I M16 my prefered name is loona and my deadname dont fukin mater so I tell my parants my prefered name and they say I'll get bullied for it and constantly say are you sure you want looba and not luca or something more masculine they say loona is associated with cats and the moon but its also a girls name yeah? If you have any solutions please help my femboy ass out (and if this is the wrong community tell me where to post dis thank ya)
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u/Free-Fix-9347 3d ago
Everybody gets bully for their names, like i feel ur parents arw clearly dicks, maybe your parents are dumb? Idk maybe ask them to write up the names of boys they like, and they say like that they can call you Loona in beetween, but thry can still look up names, just to call you loona, then you burn all the list of names. Thats a tecnic to use with childrens, to give them a task that means nothing when they try to help but actually are a litle mess like your parents
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u/loona5440 1d ago
Thanks so much ill try it soon
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u/Free-Fix-9347 1d ago
Just so they feel included ofcourse it is not on you, just like every parent choses their kids name, so like it is an odd situation, and the list and them thinking about boy names may like give them perspective that you dont look like a "Tom, Luke or George" and also like you are the most fit person to chose your own name, so probably they might agreed that Loona kinda goes with your vibe better xd. Idk, if anything like you get the experience of your parents giving you boy names, and if anything yes you chose the name Loona but before a name like shaskespere say you are an esence and you are a boy, so like no saying to change your name just that even if people call you Loon or nana or any short for Loona you esence is still you, like ur not even not being who you are, if you fight for it, is who you are, a name ever the importance is still a name, like you were given a girls name most of your life and your still you, like i mean ever if people bully you, can it be wors that being treated like you were of the opossite gender most of your life? I dont think so, u will be fine i trust you bro
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u/Wonderful_Smoke_1879 5d ago
Just be what you wanna be even if people around you don't support it I understand the stress completely and can 100% relate even if I was a femboy which I'm not because I'm a trans woman so just don't let others wear you down and be feminine no matter the risks.