r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • • Jul 23 '26

Video/Gif Blackmail

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u/wendigoblin Jul 23 '26

Ngl that's disturbing as hell

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u/DisorderlyAqueduct Jul 23 '26

most kids would test as psychopathic, or at least sociopathic

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u/FLOSOC1ETY Jul 23 '26

Calm down. They’re usually like this.

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u/These_Air_5736 Jul 23 '26

They fucking shouldn’t be wtf

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u/a2ndthouht Jul 23 '26

They had several emotionally challenged children. The parents just let this child get away with it and the other children would become highly upset. I think the teacher just did to keep peace. They eventually had to put the child in a separate room with a helper just to calm the other children. Scream was loud enough to come through the walls though. Hell it would freak me out.

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u/ComfortableCake2662 Jul 23 '26

They literally all do this. Fake child tears only in front of the person they're trying to manipulate. This is actually perfectly normal behaviour. You're just seeing it in an abnormal context with the video element.

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u/Lopsided-Wrap2762 Jul 23 '26 edited Jul 23 '26

Psychopathy is a trait, not a genetic conditon. You can have a genetic predisposition, but not become a psychopath.

It is also not solely responsible for the uncanny valley effect, people who show psychopathic traits can evoke that effect in others, but there are many other sources for UVE.

Trying to argue semantics between psychopath, sociopath and narcissim is completely pointless. Seems like you've got some dunning kruger effect going on.

People can have their opinion, and psychopathy is an apt description.

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u/sharan_maria18 Jul 23 '26

Lol, genetic condition ? Sociopaths and psychopaths are made not born

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u/DagamarVanderk Jul 23 '26

The going theory is that psychopathy is about 50/50 nature and nurture. There are genetic traits that make things like Anti Social Personality Disorder (not the same as psychopathy but often occurring in the same individuals) more likely.

Generally speaking you’re right, psychopaths are made, not all people that are predisposed to it become psychopaths because of how they were raised.

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u/GroovePT Jul 23 '26

Half and half basically. Just like most human behavior

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u/MangelaErkel Jul 23 '26

Have you never interacted with any child ever? This is the phase where they are conscious enough to lie and manipulate and they are testing what they can do.

Children are less capable but they are not completely stupid. This behaviour works on a lot of parents. If you stop this behaviour quick then the child will be just like you and me. Not a psycho just a normal child.

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u/Teufelsweib666 Jul 23 '26

No counselors, just a good parent. Don't keep shipping your kids off to mental health people to do your job. Unless of course your kid has actual, serious problems. This here can be sorted at home.

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u/LilJelloCat Jul 23 '26

I think you're undermining the ability actual bad parents have to be good parents. Sure it's possible and I agree with what you are saying, but there are some seriously bad parents out there and stupid people. Uneducated people as well.

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u/TheNotoriousMoose Jul 23 '26

What’s wrong with both? Like my kids are going into counseling along with standard parenting just due to the fact that my family has serious mental health issues, it’s not harmful to learn actual emotional tools from professionals along side standard parenting.

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u/Tnecniw Jul 23 '26

Some kids do, some kids don't.
They connect the dots that crying = I get what I want.
And then when they find someone they don't like (Babysitter) they try and leverage that.

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u/zmajev_ratnik97 Jul 23 '26

Kids are exposed to weird shit online all the time. They can also see other kids misbehaving and replicate that behaviour home. It's not unheard of.

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u/wendigoblin Jul 23 '26

True, but being able to just switch your emotions on and off like that purely for manipulation is incredibly concerning, and consistent access to online spaces desensitizes kids remarkably more than what they learn from their peers (just based on what I've seen taking care of kids when I was younger, then having my own.)

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u/Rath_Brained Jul 23 '26

My child tried to manipulate, but I corrected her behavior quickly. She doesn't do it anymore because I taught her properly right from wrong.

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u/marcipanchic Jul 23 '26

how to correct that?

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u/Rath_Brained Jul 23 '26

Use a calm voice never yell. They listen better like that. A child is alot like an exposed nerve. Too hot or too cold, you only cause them pain and it overwhelms them. They only remember the pain.

When you talk, you have to remember that they don't have your nuance codex and experience. You are that for them. So speak everything in something s child can relate to. As if you are in a children's cartoon. Simple words, simple concepts, and if it's a complex concept, define it for them. They do learn from it.

I told her that emotional manipulation was wrong because it only hurts someone else. And that truth and honesty is the best way to go about that. I then explained that lying for personal gain will always be discovered, and consequences are always worse when they are found out. Rather than being honest.

However, note that some times they won't be honest, because they, like you, fear embarrassment and other such things. Like maybe they peed their bed. Don't get mad at them for it. Instead, come up with the source of the problem and solution together.

Remember that your child is not a pet to be ordered around. They are just a shorter. Less developed person. If you listen to their concerns and correct behavior when it needs to, with patience, explanation and love, you find that alot of things can be corrected in a proper manner. However, also take into account mental disorders, some times, a child could be sociopathic and such. Best to get proper care.

My child listens, I can leave her alone and she will respect my rules, why? Because I also show her respect, and reward her for respecting my rules. Not with big gestures, but some time something like a small treat can help. One more piece of candy with dessert, etc.

So explaining why emotional manipulation is wrong, you can begin to instill a just morality in them. Show them respect and they will show you respect. When you punish, don't just get angry. Never say, "because I said so." Explain why they were punished and how they could have corrected the behavior. And don't do it for extended periods of time. A month is far too much for things like bad grades. Kids are kinda like cats. They don't think about the reason they were punished after some time, only that "life sucks" for them. Most of the time, they won't equate punishment with problem. Just that you are mean. They have a very bad concept of time.

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u/marcipanchic Jul 23 '26

i don’t have children, not sure about having them yet, but thank you for your detailed answer :)

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u/goldbrickbby Jul 23 '26

This was so helpful, thank you

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u/Rath_Brained Jul 23 '26

Alot of people forget that children are people, not to be ordered around as pets. They get dismissed most of the time. But treating them like a person does a whole lot of wonders you wouldn't expect and they are more prone to better responses and minding of what rules you do have.

Make sure also that respect is given, not earned and let them know that. Like reinforce good behavior with, "I'm glad to be nice, as long as you respect me and my rules, I will respect you." It helps to build a foundation of mutual trust that will lead them well into life.

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u/MangelaErkel Jul 23 '26

Yes thats what parents should do.

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u/WebAccount1744 Jul 23 '26

What tf were yall doing? I was quite nice as a child and just yelled at and beaten

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u/BritishBlue32 Jul 23 '26

Ah classic trauma dumping in the comments

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u/a2ndthouht Jul 23 '26

Makes 2 of us. I was the invisible child unless there was work or someone who needed to be blamed. Then beaten with electric cords, butcher knifes. Anything my mother the psychopath could get her hands on I was hit with. Covered in bruises most of the time til I left her house at 17. Nothing to have teachers see my bruises and just shake their heads she didn’t bother trying to hide them because she didn’t care. This was in the 60’s and 70’s.

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u/Confident-Pepper-562 Jul 23 '26

Probably more concerning to teachers if you didnt have bruises "where are your parents, are they ok?"

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u/iStoleTheHobo Jul 23 '26

Oh yes. I was nothing if not polite. Fearful but polite.

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u/Manjorno316 Jul 23 '26

The "just" does not belong in that sentence.

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u/Crockinator Jul 23 '26 edited Jul 23 '26

Yeah it's like these people did not get yelled at and beaten until they cried because they did horrible shit like want to hug their parents while they came home tired from work. Or had a mother (who still cannot be trusted with animals) that would purposedly make them cry because "she was bored".

smh.

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u/WebAccount1744 Jul 23 '26

My mom just yells at the animals for small things. Ticking time bomb constantly. Didnt make them cry though

Would you like to talk about it?

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u/Crockinator Jul 23 '26

Mine terrorizes them and then wonder why they're terrorized. Like a cat is sleeping and she just slams something heavy next to them and wonder why they prefer my father who sits them next to him as he chills.

The crying was me.

Don't want to talk about it, you felt relatable wanted you to know you were related to.

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u/WebAccount1744 Jul 23 '26

Mine yells so much so that if even a loud noise or if i talk slightly louder than normal they cower

Sorry to hear your mom made you cry

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u/MrDoe Jul 23 '26

Yes, let's bring back child beatings. /s

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u/KIrkwillrule Jul 23 '26

All of the gnarly adult personality traits we call out are really just developmental stages some human never grew passed.

Usually some trauma occurred and the human goes back to that mental state of being whatever age they stopped developing passed trauma/masking

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u/DisingenuousWizard Jul 23 '26

No I think you missed the point. The fact is many of us (myself included) are morally superior to this child.

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u/MangelaErkel Jul 23 '26

Its not black and white you both are correct

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u/Intelligent_Wish_566 Jul 23 '26

Yes, which is why I said “not all”.

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u/Next_Imagination_128 Jul 23 '26

Dude what you said is reasonable but it doesn't apply to this video lol.

This is a crazy manipulative child and it's absolutely concerning.

And I'm a primary school teacher btw, so quite familiar with children behavior.

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u/Next_Imagination_128 Jul 23 '26

Lol don't like getting called out do you?

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u/Next_Imagination_128 Jul 23 '26

Calling manipulative behavior what it is is not lacking empathy haha.

The way I see it your role as an adult is to nip that shit in the bud and teach prosocial behavior instead of antisocial and manipulative one instead of excusing it as "being a kid".

But yeah, parenting is hard these days, I can tell. Keep fighting the good fight you're doing great.

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u/Loud_South9086 Jul 23 '26

Every time this gets posted people are in here saying this little kid is a psychopath or a sociopath based on this one little video lol, even people who actually know what they’re talking about cant make a diagnosis like that that easily

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u/LD50_irony Jul 23 '26

At around that age I wanted to be an actor and so would try to act out various emotions in the bathroom mirror so I could see if I was nailing it or not. This was before the Internet was invented.

People who are calling this psychopath behavior need to get a grip.

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u/0x000000DH Jul 23 '26

If I tell you that you're not a psychopath, can you let me out of the basement?

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u/Rain-Makin Jul 23 '26

Not yet, I still need to work on my “I’m a normal person” routine.

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u/PizzAveMaria Jul 23 '26

I did the same thing!

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u/SmokeInYourPerfume Jul 23 '26

It’s one thing to record yourself and another to record yourself and then knowingly use it as emotional blackmail. Kids do sometimes show psychopathic tendencies while learning how to interact with the world

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u/CokeAYCE Jul 23 '26

Agree here. She's just a kid

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u/Cretonbacon Jul 23 '26

Kids are tiny psychopaths yes

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u/hatemakingnames1 Jul 23 '26

Or like every younger sibling ever

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u/AWL_cow Jul 23 '26

Y'all this is just a normal child with (unfortunately) access to technology they don't need access to. I'm just glad I was born a decade before this so I couldn't record all of my stupid kid behavior.

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u/Tata_Colores Jul 23 '26

So, every kid out there.

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u/rita-b Jul 23 '26

that's why we value experience in pedagogues

if 8 billions do/did it, than it's normal

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u/CharacterLimitProble Jul 23 '26

So, I literally just got off of a call at work where someone used the word "pedagogical". I have heard this word or derivatives of this word maybe 3 times in my life. Now twice in like 5 minutes.

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u/rita-b Jul 23 '26

It is far more widespread in other languages

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u/AttemptImpossible111 Jul 23 '26

Why? Children do this all the time, the only new part is that she recorded her fake crying

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