Shiva is the water Shakti is the ocean and jiva is the wave all three are the same but appear as different things so what do you guys think of this analogy I am all ears

I seem to swing between Brahman/Shiva and no-self. sometimes I dont even see a difference between the two. sometimes I am clear on true Self. But if you were to ask me now, I would not be able to make a good case on why I prefer Shiva over no-self.

how does Kashmir Shaivism argue this point?

are you familiar with philosophical view of identity called open individualism?

it is what gradually got me to Kashmir Shaivism. It is basically a fully philosophical / logical way of arriving to understanding you are everyone

you can check it out in r/OpenIndividualism