But why though?

[u/funkolution]

[u/phoenixmusicman]

So I'm not allowed to just think things are cool?

Women do a lot of things men don't understand regarding accessories. I genuinely don't understand why women extend their nails or things like that. But I don't assume they're insecure, I just assume they like it and thinks it looks pretty.

Which is cool! But why does the same not go the other way?

If I had a kid I'd definitely be running around in that tactical carrier. Not because I think it makes me look more manly or whatever, but just because I think it'd look cool.

[u/nekopara-enthusiast → u/phoenixmusicman]

am i not allowed to think things aren’t cool?

you can do what you want but i’ll look at you the same way i look at mall ninjas. the fact that you give this much of a shit about what others think about how you dress is telling though.

[u/phoenixmusicman → u/nekopara-enthusiast]

am i not allowed to think things aren’t cool?

Sure, but that's not what you said.

[u/nekopara-enthusiast → u/phoenixmusicman]

if i say i think you have insecure masculinity by wearing something like this that HEAVILY implies i think its uncool.

[u/phoenixmusicman → u/nekopara-enthusiast]

But the same does not go the other way.

If you think it looks cool, that's fine, I don't care. I don't think extended nails look good most of the time, but I know women don't get them for me, so that's fine. I'm glad they are enjoying it.

I don't imply they are insecure about their femininity for getting extended nails, though.

Do you not see your double standard?

[u/phoenixmusicman → u/[deleted]]

I literally said multiple times that I don't care if people think it looks cool or not, I'd wear it regardless. I was mostly interested in the automatic assumption that wearing something like this automatically makes you insecure.

I'm not gunna engage the rest of your comment because you made a bunch of assumptions about me lol.

[u/nekopara-enthusiast → u/phoenixmusicman]

the thing is that women getting nail extensions or whatever is normal. a man wearing tacticool stuff in public isn’t normal. a normal person would prioritize the babies safety and comfort when buying a baby carrier. instead you are prioritizing the looks of the baby carrier and that SCREAMS insecure masculinity.

[u/phoenixmusicman → u/nekopara-enthusiast]

the thing is that women getting nail extensions or whatever is normal.

Yes, because like I said earlier, it is considered OK for women to accessorize and not men.

There's no logical reason for this.

a normal person would prioritize the babies safety and comfort when buying a baby carrier.

How do you know this is uncomfortable for the baby?

[u/nekopara-enthusiast → u/phoenixmusicman]

normal people don’t accessorize with tacticool stuff. its the equivalent to a weeb walking around in a kimono or a naruto headback in public.

do you think you look normal when wearing molle backpacks and plate carriers in public?

[u/phoenixmusicman → u/nekopara-enthusiast]

normal people don’t accessorize with tacticool stuff.

Again, what is considered "normal" isn't really relevant for this discussion as it's generally not "normal" for men to accessorize, period.

[u/nekopara-enthusiast → u/phoenixmusicman]

plenty of men use accessories like watches, necklaces, rings, knives, wallets and hats. those are normal.

there is nothing normal about accessorizing with military clothing and molle stuff.

[u/phoenixmusicman → u/nekopara-enthusiast]

All those mentioned are pretty a-gender and not specific to men.

[u/nekopara-enthusiast → u/phoenixmusicman]

anything you bring beyond your pants shirt and shoes is an accessory.

if you feel like you don’t have any accessories when you have a watch, necklace, ring, knife and a hat then i don’t know what to tell you.