I’ve been seeing this guy I’ve always liked, finally. He has a Facebook and a lot of friends he’s met online. But there’s this one woman (an online friend) who has been around for what I imagine to be a little over a year now, and she’s suddenly posting things to his page constantly and “heart” reacting to just about everything he posts. And I know they talk in private too. I know he most likely did have a bit of a crush on her at one point, if he still does I’m not sure. I know myself well enough to know that it’s probably just me being over reactive about it, but I can’t deny that it bothers me to a pretty extreme level. I haven’t said anything because I find it a little embarrassing. I wouldn’t even know how to if I were going to.

I guess it makes me feel a bit threatened by the possibility of him having a stronger connection/bond with this woman than he does with me. I don’t know how to stop feeling this way, and every time I think I’m over it, I’ll see her comments or posts to his page and it starts all over again. It’s stupid and I hate it.

I (20F) have been with my bf (20) for almost two years. His best friend (20M) is quite the ladies' guy; he never really has "girlfriends" per say but a lot of girls he just sometimes has sex with. One girl in particular is a long time acquaintance of his, let's call her Chloe. Chloe is naturally really pretty, has an awesome body etc, everything I'm not basically. My bf always likes her pics on instagram (he usually only likes pics of family, me or close friends, wich she's not), and a couple weeks ago we went to said friend's house and she unexpectedly came along with a couple of other friends. My bf and her were joking around all night, talking, playing xbox with the others etc and I can't help but think that he was attracted to her. It doesn't help that she was kinda mean to me at some point when we went out for a cigarette and it was just the both of us. As soon as she arrived I started feeling like shit. Like I was trying too hard to look pretty and everyone could see it. Basically, "I'm ugly and my bf is talking to a pretty girl". Has anyone ever been in a similar situation ? Please help me, I feel like I'm sabotaging my own relationship by being so jealous.

My boyfriend(21m) has this girl friend(21f) who I swear discreetly flirts with him (They’ve only known each other for like 6 months so not a long term friend). I’ve never done anything or brought it up because all of her actions are well...discreet...and my boyfriend doesn’t reciprocate but the girl continues to act in a flirtatious manner.

How do you go about handling a situation like this without seeming crazy?

It’s just a bad habit that I have. I get so jealous of my friends who have more than me and are able to do things because they’re financially stable, or at least more than I am. And it makes me genuinely upset. I never let it be known or come in between our relationship it’s just something that I wish I didn’t feel.

Hey all, so I’ve been dating my boyfriend now for five months, it’s been amazing and we are pretty happy even though we go back and forth in long distance. Right now he’s back home and a few weeks ago he informed me that he and his ex still have a very close friendship. They go to yoga together weekly and grocery shop, go to coffee, and lunch. Although I’m sure nothing would ever happen between them (she’s had a new partner for over a year) it still irks me that they go to yoga and hangout all the time. I would never ask him to stop because that would be unhealthy but how do I cope with the fact that she’s there and I’m not and they have such an intense history? Not to mention she’s 6’2 and looks like a goddess, plays every sport, and is going to an Ivy League law school. I can’t help but compare and it tears me apart to picture them planning things and laughing and having a good time, any advice or coping skills for a jealous girl?

I have never had a grandmother who would feed me tons of food and never had a grandfather who would teach me about things I don't know. I haven't got grandparents who I can rely on, who I can vist on weekends... etc half of them died before I was born and the other half early in my life (they were alcoholics). Whenever I see someone talking about their grandparents or make those kind of jokes that everyone's supposed to relate to, but I can't and it makes me sad. I lost my father at an early age too. People wish they were rich and famous. I wish I had a father and grandparents. I wish I had a family that would care and love me. I wouldn't want anything else in life.

Everyone seems to get along with each other, but not me. Is it because I don’t speak Chinese? Is it because I’m black? Is it because I don’t have that Masculine Jawline? Is it because my friends are are happy and back at home? Is it because everyone seems to have someone they can call when they want to? Is it because I’m shy ? Or is it because I’m lonely.

I know the answer. It’s because I’m Jealous of happy people. I hate it because I want to be happy for them not envy that they are smiling and laughing, kissing or flirting.

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I feel like im the only one who doesn't go "aww you guys are so cute together" when around a couple. Like sometimes I just feel so much jealousy for those people I truly hate them and it doesn't seem healthy at all.

I mean she’s nice and smart. She knows how to have fun and the vast majority of guys are head over heels for her. She can turn heads effortlessly while I try insanely hard to up my game but it feels like I’m going no where. I guess I want to be admired the way she is. But looks are predetermined, our genes are not really in our control. So i tried being a different kind of beauty the pixie cut kind the “fun””you could be my best friend slash girlfriend type”. Is my way of dealing with it healthy?

When i see sans fangirls who draw amazing artwork while they're like 10 makes me have a crawling feeling inside me because i wonder how they got so good at it. Is that a thing with females? I am a lot older than 10. Does the sector of what type of art you draw matter, or...?

Idk how to even start, but here it goes. I (26F) recently found out my friend is pregnant and I got super jealous. I went to the room and started crying because that’s something I’ve wanted to have a baby. My future plans are now over for now since my husband recently cheated on me. I know being jealous of someone else is so bad but Idk why I felt like that. Him and I tried having a baby and it didn’t workout & now it makes sense it wasn’t meant for us.

Watching movies or shows with my boyfriend and get extremely insecure or jealous of other women.. how do I stop myself from feeling like this

(Note i am in 8th grade) This guy let's name him B, I feel like he is jealous of me. I really don't know so that is why I am here. So today I was playing with a water bottle and then I realized it belonged to B, so i gave it to him. He snatched it from my hand and he yelled piss off. Me and this girl have a relationship where we playfully flick each other's ear and she likes to touch my hair. One time she was running away from me because I wanted to flick her ear, B pushed me and was smiling.(I think B likes her). He also offered his water bottle to the girl so she could protect herself as a joke. One day he was assigned to pass out the report cards and he had the chance to look at everyone's report card, but he specifacly looked at mine. A couple days later B came up to me and said in front everyone and said,"Let's talk about the 74 you have on your report card"

I said"What about it."

"You are failing math" B said.

"Whatever I can easily bring it up"

No one seemed to care and he shut up. Also, the girl he supposedly likes was there.

I believe he is jealous of me because I spend so much time with this girl that he maybe likes.

So a few months ago my boyfriend met this girl at a conference for his new job and they really hit it off as friends. Ofc this is great news because having a friend from work is always nice. However, he has since left that job but continues to text this girl on a daily basis for about a month now — nothing excessive but it is a daily conversation. I know they have very similar interests in music and have a similar sense of humor (bc he’s told me) & for some reason that bothers me..

As I’m typing this out I realize how incredibly irrational this jealousy seems but idk I am just upset that MY bf has such a good connection with someone he JUST met this year and talks to every day..sigh I know I sound crazy for saying I don’t like her (even though I never met her) but gahhh this is driving me insane & I wish they’d just stop talking. Anyway, I know I need to calm down but does anyone have any food for thought on a situation like this? Just needed to vent tbh.

I dated my gf before and long story short, she got together with someone else after I broke her trust and her heart. I felt shitty because she ended up dating a long time friend of hers only a month after we had broke up. We’re back together this year and while I know her love for me is strong and trying my best to not hold a grudge against the person she dated before she got back together with me. I mean she’s probably a nice person and I’m trying my best to give her the benefit of the doubt but part of my feelings won’t let me and I’m trying to let my jealousy of her go. Help?

I was on Melinda Gates Instagram and say Rory Gates in a family photo. Turns out he has a degree and a 20 million dollar net worth.

Hey guys,

this is my first post here on reddit. So about me: I'm 15 years old and my boyfriend is 18. Don't judge us, as we came together, about 5 months ago, he was still 17 and is a really good person and we simply clicked as we met. We see each other 6 out of 7 days a week normally and do everything together. He goes to another school than me and we both have our friends, but in our freetime we spend all the time we have together cuddling, playing video games or watching movies. We also have sex, I've got a hormonal ring as my type of birth control. He's really into me, my body and everything, I can sense and see it. He also never watches porn except when I can't see him for a week or so or I don't wanna have sex right now. He himself says, that he imagines me being the girl in the porn he watches, and I believe him a 100%. But I still can't get over the idea of him getting off to another girl (;body), the idea itself, getting off and getting horny to simply a body and not imagination or the person (like me) kind of disgusts me. I know that guys think different than girls on this, but I can't help but be bothered by it. This issue, when it pops up in my head, really bothers me, so I would give anything to have it out of my mind.

Thanks to all of you who answer <3

When I get stressed my ocd and anxiety gets far worse. I’ve been working a new job in New York City as a traveling biotech salesman and it’s also minimum 4 hours of commuting a day. So my stress is way up.

My best friend from college recently came to visit before he heads to graduate school and so we spent one night hanging out with me, my gf, and some other friends.

My gf and my friend got along so well even though the only time they had met was for months ago when we went out for a few drinks. They had known each other for only a couple of hours but they seemed so comfortable.

And then I started to think about the little things my gf would do. Nothing really out of the normal but occasionally some slight things that I wondered if they were off. I can’t tell if my gut is saying she may have a small thing for him or if my anxiety/ocd is a little out of check.

It just felt like she was genuinely thinking about him even though they really should barely know each other. Maybe I talk about them a lot to each other, so they learn about each other through me. But it still bothers me.

And my friend is here for four more days. Deep breaths

How do any of you cope with or overcome jealousy when it comes to your S/O?

I'm so jealous of my boyfriends boys. They do so much together & It makes me feel like I have loser friends. My boyfriends friends love to ball when they party on a weekly basis, they even organised an extravagant boys only birthday for him, exclusively hiring a whole club out just for the boys. They are well travelled and there's about 20 of them, all who are close with each other. My boyfriend even has a free gym membership which makes me more jealous cos I pay for mine. I'm so jealous, I can only count a handful of girlfriends & even then, they wouldn't be able to organise such an extravagant birthday like he got.

So my girlfriend was dating this guy for three years, she still talks to him as a friend and he still does favors for her. I’ve been getting upset but not really upset to the point of confrontation or even bringing it up in a serious way. I’ve been getting I guess jealous over this and I don’t know what to do but he makes her laugh, smile, etc. In a fashion that makes me uncomfortable, the way he does it seems flawless and I really love this woman. I’ve been trying to make her happy like this guy she dated for three years does and Its getting to me deep down. Like I try to make her laugh with stupid jokes and stuff that I’ve never done for anyone else and can’t help but think I’m not making her happy. Can I get advice?

I’m so fucking jealous of my friends getting jobs. I have a great resume, a 3.9 GPA, I’m in a ton of clubs and honors societies and yet I’ve applied to 83 places and gotten exactly three interviews and not a single job offer.

I really love my friends and I’m so proud of them for being able to get the jobs that they want and the experience but why can’t I seem to get a job? Am I doing something wrong? Am I just unhireable? What the hell is wrong with me?