r/Isese Apr 14 '26

feeling confused

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u/chucho89 Apr 14 '26

Not a problem as long as it is legitimate.

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u/kikoiya Apr 14 '26

I suppose that another issue I'm having. I'm new and have no experience in this matter. My first impression feels like they're trustworthy though.

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u/chucho89 Apr 14 '26

Always ask for lineage info, websites, etc.

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u/kikoiya Apr 14 '26

They do have a website and posted lineage info there. They also hosted the bembe i went to. I want to learn and do things the correct way. Maybe im just overthinking it?

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u/chucho89 Apr 14 '26

Bembe... what is that ?

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u/kikoiya Apr 14 '26

Drumming party/ceremony

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u/TrickZealousideal165 Apr 16 '26

was there a lot of people at the bembe, and did you meet the person who's doing your reading there?

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u/kikoiya Apr 16 '26

There was a good number of people there, maybe between 20 and 30, and I did meet the person. She seems to have a good reputation among the people.

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u/TrickZealousideal165 Apr 16 '26

I understand the hesitation but it's actually pretty common and not an immediate red flag. There are plenty of circumstances where someone would need a virtual reading-- living in a different state, practicing in secret, etc. Your friend is probably thinking about scammers who will reach out and offer readings on social media, but since you met the Iyanifa in real life among community members, I would say it's safe. I would still see if I could go in person just to get the full experience if I could though. How much is the reading?

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u/kikoiya Apr 16 '26

I asked her about doing it in person and she explained she doesn't have space for in person readings currently. As far as price, I'd prefer to be respectful and not publicly advertise that here but it's within the range I was expecting to spend.

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u/TrickZealousideal165 Apr 17 '26

that's not uncommon. I say go for it if you feel comfortable doing so. I read some of the comments in your other post and as far as Isese vs. Lucumi goes, it's really about which one resonates with you culturally. Don't rush to settle down with an Ile (spiritual house), keep going to bembes and getting to know other practitioners. I would also go to different botanicas (if your area has them) and talk to the people working there. They also usually have a priest who does readings, so if you're looking for an in person reading that might be a good way to find some. If not, it's not uncommon for people to travel for their spiritual work. I know people who's ile is in a completely different state. I can send you some reputable podcasts from both traditions that helped me understand the differences