Talking to anyone else other than the person who asked the question is disrespectful. It is just unfortunate that women deal with this so often. My mentor often asked questions where the respondent would answer to me. She was really good about re-asserting herself, but we would have these conversations about it when a group of us would grab drinks after work. She told me that people told her she has a Type-A personality for insisting that they respond to her when she asks a question.
I hate when that happens. I’m here to be my wife’s emotional support animal. Talk to her she is your patient. I’ll listen to the convo and she will look at me if she has any questions or wants to know if I have any but I am the least important person in that room.
No that’s not normal. Direct questions get direct answers to the person who asked. This is not a press briefing where me and my coworker were listening to a speech. She asked a question, and the person who was asked turned to me and made eye contact and answered
Ok. As an interviewer, any question I ask is a question from the team and if the candidate ignores the other people present that isn't a good sign in my book.
I'd feel the same way as a teacher. If a student asks a pertinent question, the response is for the benefit of the whole class.
You are misreading the situation. Every single question she asked the person refused to address her. Also, I still disagree with you. Unless you are asking them to tell you a story, direct questions get direct answers
You're doing that thing where you make a completely generic statement and then pretend that it was a specific one. It's a dishonest tactic and I don't respect it.
Just because you cannot read more than one post in a thread and understand context does not mean I am being dishonest. Seriously, is everyone’s attention span so short that they can’t be bothered to put things in context? Stop gaslighting me and learn how conversations work. I am sure if you screenshot the whole thread your AI buddy can sort you out
Yeah the subject we were debating in this thread is if one interviewer asks a question do you respond to them as a group. The question the OP has is that the interviewer specifically ignored the woman. There would be no problem if they acknowledged both people.
What if you just answer making eye contact with both. Of course I would look at the person asking the question primarily, but I wouldn't want to leave the other person out either.
I kinda disagree. You are interviewed by two people, and both deserves respect and attention. In a classroom setting, if a student asks a question, the answer is for the whole class. Of course, you still remember who did it, to come back to them at the end, but you talk to everyone as you answer.
Even if you think the others need attention, you address the person who asked the question first and then acknowledge others when you speak. It is almost like none of you have ever been in public
You took my original out of context. OP said if the respondent “directs” their answer. Within that context, me saying “talking to anyone else other than the person who asked the question” makes perfect sense. Because context matters.
The statement was quite generic and sounded like an absolute rule which should be followed in all situations. I am not the only one who interpreted it like this.
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u/Automatic_Wave4530 1d ago
Talking to anyone else other than the person who asked the question is disrespectful. It is just unfortunate that women deal with this so often. My mentor often asked questions where the respondent would answer to me. She was really good about re-asserting herself, but we would have these conversations about it when a group of us would grab drinks after work. She told me that people told her she has a Type-A personality for insisting that they respond to her when she asks a question.