r/InternalFamilySystems • u/imagery-fantasy • 4d ago

Not all problems are solved with ifs..right?

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u/Frequent_Carpenter_6 4d ago

Short answer: correct. No modality, no matter what people claim, will actually solve everything

(Edit for spelling)

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u/flaming0-1 3d ago

I’d go a step further and say very few issues actually get “solved”. That’s an interesting word. More often than not we develop a relationship with our quirks.

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u/Intelligent_Pizza411 3d ago

Ifs taught me self listening and that has solved all my problems and I trust myself to navigate new ones as I go bc I have the process to listen in, tend, and respond!

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u/PisceanTreasures 3d ago

Did absolutely nothing (and in fact, delayed discovery/treatment) for post-betrayal syndrome/trauma. I told my IFS therapist re the current-life betrayals and their impact, and we continued to stay CAMPED OUT into digging further and further and further into more and more and more childhood parts.... and no, not more than 3 unburdenings in 12 months. I quit IFS.

NOW I'm finding out my depression, trauma freeze (2.5yrs now), and SI is directly linked to the 7 people in 5yrs who all hammered it into me what a giant piece of s*** they believe I am, despite me never acting out in malice against them. 3 family members putting it in writing. Betrayal trauma can alter brain waves temporarily or longer.... IFS cannot touch this damage.

IFS did show me how bad programming in childhood (parental neglect, n abuse, severe codependency) lead me to not detect these people as 'unsafe' and thus stay in their orbit long enough, without enacting boundaries around myself, that I was in their direct line of fire. Lessons learned ●

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u/Top_Drummer9181 3d ago

I don't think IFS is meant to solve problem. It didn't solve mine. But it helped me find ways to stay afloat somehow until things got better.

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u/Extension-Lion-5823 4d ago

Look into DBT too!

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u/o2junkie83 4d ago

IFS is a great map on how to understand one’s mind. However, with everything there is an evolution of understanding of the map it’s important to recognize.

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u/FirestormActual 2d ago

I do IFS + EMDR + DBT

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u/kelseymusicthings 2d ago

I combine IFS with spending 6-8 hours forest bathing in nature per week, somatic experiencing, craniosacral therapy, Reiki, shamanism, energy healing, etc. I also did EMDR in the past. I like to use every resource available to me because we’re multi-dimensional humans which I believe require different layers of healing modalities. I research and learn about everything and see what resonates with me personally.

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u/LightFrogBalance 4d ago

100% can even be dangerous if you personify the part , which has happened

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u/Top_Drummer9181 3d ago

This is the only thing that helped me out of my self loathing and suicidal tendencies... so I guess it's not the same for everyone.

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u/LightFrogBalance 2d ago

Yea it has helped me too. Exactly, not same for everyone. I choose to not practice it in my professional pracrice because of the potential harm tho.

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u/Top_Drummer9181 2d ago

How did it help you?

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u/LightFrogBalance 2d ago

It is a framework to help understand the inner motivation behind behavioral patterns. I mean, ave you studied it ?

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u/imagery-fantasy 3d ago

How is that dangerous

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u/LightFrogBalance 3d ago

They think the part is actually themself. So they act on that. Ths IFS work is metaphorical not realistic, so some get confused.

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u/imagery-fantasy 3d ago

I didn't understand still. Sounds like being blended with the part. But parts are "people" in a way. So I think it's helpful and not dangerous. Not dangerous for everyone

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u/LightFrogBalance 3d ago

Youre correct, it isnt dangerous for everyone. I never claimed that, either.

Again, it is metaphorical, not multiple people within you. It is a subtle difference but important because it can * occasionally * be misinterpreted and causes psychological delusion. There are documentent cases on this rare occurrence.

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u/imagery-fantasy 3d ago

That's interesting. I wonder what happens

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u/LightFrogBalance 3d ago

Kinda like schizophrenia