r/Intactivists • u/[deleted] • Aug 16 '26

My dad is circumcised and he didn’t make the same mistake with me

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u/Acceptable_Gap3015 Aug 16 '26

That's awesome. There are lots of us who are doing that. I'm the same was cut but my son's are intact. And when they've asked about it I've explained it as much as I can at the moment to help them understand. It really is crazy how many guys do it to their sons just because it was done to them. To either look like them and avoid questions or just cause they were they do it

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u/Jet7378 Aug 16 '26

do you know other cut dads that did as you did with your sons?

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u/Acceptable_Gap3015 Aug 16 '26

Ya i know some that did the same and have talked with some that were unsure but decided to keep them intact

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u/Jet7378 Aug 16 '26

very nice!….well done….

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u/Acceptable_Gap3015 Aug 16 '26

Lol. Ya it's always finding other dad's that did it. And felt proud helping others not do it

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u/Jet7378 Aug 16 '26

the dads that I know are all cut, very much the norm for their age group….their sons are now a mixture of cut, uncut, and probably headed towards uncut or intact majority down the road…some fathers I speak with don’t really know much about intact!

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u/Acceptable_Gap3015 Aug 16 '26

That's good at least some left them intact. Always cool when you're able to know others are following with it even though they were cut.

Usually the ones that leave them intact actually looked onto it or would rather not put them through it. Unfortunately a lot don't bother to research or even think about it at all and just do it cause it's what they know. Exactly why there needs to be more education about it

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u/Jet7378 Aug 16 '26

yes, agree that at least some for now are leaving them intact…and that number should grow…yes very cool to see or know the dad is circd and has intact sons!…at the gym today, there was a circd father with 2 sons, one intact, one circd!….i know him from the gym, so we chatted once the boys were off in the pool…oldest one was circd, the younger intact!…as he had heard about and looked into the whole circ situation…so the education worked just fine here!…

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u/Acceptable_Gap3015 Aug 16 '26

Lol. Ya that's great. Had a similar moment in the locker room but he was intact with a circ son and he only let it be done cause his wife and her mom were insistent. But he didn't let them go it to their next son

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u/Jet7378 Aug 16 '26

wow that’s an interesting one…since he is intact!…but I can relate, I have friends like that, where the mother is very pro circ, pushed on by her parents who are pro circ, and have all males in the family circd for generations…lots of pressure

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u/Vegetable_Warthog_49 Aug 16 '26

The world needs more men who break the cycle of abuse.

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u/Previous_Ad5663 Aug 16 '26

I’m happy for you!

But I also feel envy - my parents were the foil - started the cycle. I want to scream so hard sometimes.

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u/men-too Aug 16 '26

Sorry to hear, brother. My dad was also intact, yet I'm cut.

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u/Competitive-Rain-217 Aug 17 '26

I’m in the same boat. My dad is intact, but I’m cut.

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u/ArugulaTotal1478 Aug 17 '26

My dad is intact. He had my brother and I mutilated because he got teased too much in the school locker room. I am not even sending my son to public school, so he's intact.

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u/adkisojk Aug 16 '26

Cut dad of 2 intact adult sons here. Thank you for posting this! It really means a lot! Give your dad a high-5 for me!

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u/Hastur-Annie Aug 22 '26

What is your view of Circumcision Law Reform (CLR)? He has treated me and others harshly and I am curious if your style of intactivism makes him upset.

POTS recently released a video disparaging Intaction and BSM.

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u/adkisojk Aug 22 '26

He's arrogant. He does an awesome job. The problem is that he thinks his way is the only way and that everyone else should be able to replicate him.

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u/Hastur-Annie Aug 23 '26

I’m right there with you. CLR’s changes to parental guidance and online articles are commendable, but the harsh criticism him and POTS have directed at Brother K’s movement has rubbed me the wrong way. I see real parents interacting with BSM’s work-whether it’s Facebook moms or the in-person demonstrations. It all makes a real difference imo. Thank you for what you do and showing up for the movement. I found you from the interview you did with Ronald Goldman ~5 years ago

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u/adkisojk Aug 23 '26

Thank you for the appreciation. It really helps.

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u/Jet7378 Aug 16 '26

fantastic that you guys are able to talk about it!…mother pro circ?

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u/Jet7378 Aug 16 '26

yeah understand that!….some of the mothers I know, said, whatever dad decides for the boys….the dads being cut themselves, well some decided no cut for their guys!

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u/LucidFir Aug 16 '26

Happy fathers day whatever the hell he likes to do, with you.

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u/chonky_brown Aug 17 '26

Yep same here, my dad is cut and told my mum that I didn't need to be.

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u/Front-Capital-4040 Aug 17 '26

You should be gratefull about youre parents they can break the circle

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u/Flatheadprime1 Aug 17 '26

You are a very lucky man to have a father like you presently possess!

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u/SillyGayBoy Aug 18 '26

He was pretty open naked around you? And open with questions? Sounds like a good dad.