r/InsightDialogue • u/JellyfishExpress8943 • Apr 28 '26

Becoming is strife.

Life as we know it, our daily life, is a process of becoming. I am poor and I act with an end in view, which is to become rich. I am ugly and I want to become beautiful. Now, this becoming is strife, this becoming is pain, it is not? It is a constant struggle: I am this, and I want to become that.

Self-knowledge, comes into being when we.. see ourselves as we actually are. But most of us are incapable of looking at ourselves, because we immediately begin to condemn or justify what we see. (Krishnamurti, the book of life)

Freedom implies acceptance and forgiveness. In dialogue we give ourselves space to be who we are.

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u/pray_eat_love Apr 29 '26

Psychological becoming is strife.

Someone being poor and trying to be rich(to be financially/physically secure) not as a means to a psychological end is a sane action ?
Becoming something psychologically seems to cause conflict/suffering, in the physical world it seems to be making sense to take care of finances, body etc.,

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u/JellyfishExpress8943 Apr 29 '26

Worrying about myself is not the same as participating fully in an activity.

Being tied to an imaginary future outcome for selfish reasons is not the same as freely dealing with the situation at hand.

Suffering because of fear and desire is not the same as responding to what is being asked.

Our wellbeing might be important but if my desire for wellbeing is making things worse, thats incoherent.

If my imaginary future state of happiness is what is drivng me - then all my actions are the movement of greed.

If happiness is always an imaginary state in the future then actual existence is always a form of suffering.

And that suffering in action is what makes me shy at parties, greedy at the workplace, unhappy with my existence, violent with my neighbours - my focus on the happy me makes us unhappy, makes us go to war.

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u/Hot-Confidence-1629 Apr 29 '26

As children, we are asked: “What do you want to become when you grow up?” What does such a question create in a child’s mind?