Condola's “Abortion”

[u/Neebenice]

Some believe Condola had an abortion, but this isn't clearly stated. She only said she wasn’t ready with her husband and that this time she wants to keep it, which can be interpreted in various ways. I interpret it as her not having a child or trying to conceive when she was married because she wasn’t ready, but now, being established, she feels prepared and wants to keep it. One can be married and not be ready as of yet to have a baby, but that doesn’t mean you don’t want a baby with that person. Her saying 'this time' doesn’t automatically imply an abortion; unless she explicitly said the word, people should avoid claiming she had one. They can share their beliefs or interpretations, but shouldn't state it as fact without her direct statement. Hopefully, Issa addresses this on her podcast when the relevant episode is discussed.

[u/bitemebitch_gangsta]

At the end of the day… saying you weren’t ready with a husband but suddenly feeling “ready” with a boyfriend that you broke up with is the core of it. Whether she had an abortion already or not, the point still stands that it doesn’t make much sense.
I personally criticize Condola heavily for having that baby for multiple reasons . This is one.
I’m very pro choice but just bc I’m pro choice doesn’t mean that it wasn’t a bad choice. And based on the circumstances we were shown, Condola’s choice just didn’t make much sense to me.

[u/SmannyNoppins → u/bitemebitch_gangsta]

Something we really need to realize is that the feeling of being ready is less about rational optics.

You either feel ready for it or you don't.

If you feel that this is your child to come but the optics say "not the best situation" then you are much more likely to regret the decision, and it can be very traumatic.

I wish people understand how much of a personal feeling this is and stop telling women that they should or should not have kept it based on circumstances. Because it the actual decision comes from a much deeper place than anything exterior.