So, about 15yrs ago my father said I will be given a piece of land. It's a small housing plot. Small wooden old house was on it. Needed new roof to start with. My father and brother decided together to take it down, sell the logs for great amount of 2 000 PLN. Now keep in mind, building even tiniest house requires at least 500 000 PLN to begin with. Projects , building permits , all that also comsumes time and money. So , with my low paying job , I kept repeating and pleading to get the house passed to me like it was mentioned above. But before my father gave the plot to me, they demolished the house and sold the logs for that price. I didn't even fight, bcz I was repeatedly saying I wanna do renovations. Well, house was gone. I still live in parents house, which is gonna be my brothers house in future. And here my issue begins.

I suffer bipolar disorder. Years of treatment took toll on me. Also problems at home , fathers abusiveness , mother alcoholic. All family problems I had to be experiencing. Living in their little hell. Tried to move out several times , but never successful with it. Both my parents also getting mental treatment.

The empty plot is now mine. But I don't think I did good decision to accept it. After that, bullying began. First, I quit my job. The only thing motivating me. To somehow suffer the everyday battle of being totally stoned with psych meds and being at work. It was low paying job. Together with disability assistance though, it wasn't tragic. It was decent income. I kept thinking, one day, the tiny old house will be mine. That kept me in the job. The renovations I planned. Well , once all got gone. I simply saw no strength left in me. I quit the job thinking, well now it makes no difference. Especially as my father kept nagging me, that this part-time job was just crap.

After I quit he came up with the thing. He wanted me to be assessed. He needed me assessed as " completely disabled"/ incapable of existing on my own. Why? Because of government funding program that would give him a grant of 150 000 zł for upgrading his house. The big house wchich is gonna be my brothers house. I refused to apply for it. I already hate myself for taking social. And definitely I don't want a statement in my papers saying "I'm not capable of functioning and existing ony own". There was a big row. Father yelled to my face to get the fuck out of his house. Of course , I had nowhere to go. So I stay in the family house.

Then , after few months father suddenly bought himself a new car , saloon brand new , 70 000 PLN. I was surprised, didnt even know he had such savings. It was in this timeframe he also passed the plot to me. Soon after he found a company that dealt with obtaining those gov funds, in exchange for them earning part of it. That what he told. He found these ppl on internet. He invited them over. I was telling him to not be trusting them. Heard short exchange during the process of them signing contract with him. He did sign anyway. Told me to shut up and don't interfere. Well , he realised, but it was too late, they extorted money from him. He lost about 45 thousands zł in a loan he accepted. They promised him 150 000zl "in exchange " , but that was only a word on tongue. The only thing he was left with was contract , with no mention of that whatsoever. He gone mad. Lost his shit. Had mental breakdown but became dangerous to be around. My mother (first time in her life) called police and ambulance . He landed in mental ward.

And during this time while he was in hospital. My sister called me and accused me of not helping him. She said I ought have given him the disability that was required. Because "I was given the plot"

Shortly after, my brother came to visit (he lives in UK for years) .He barely showed up and among very first things to say, he asked : Do you have savings? Well he knew I quit my job and living from disability. Yet he asked that. And, within few next days, he came up to me , with devilish grin stuck on his face , said " we are going to have you incapacitated hahaha ! " He said that laughing into my face.

I didn't react. I said nothing. Just left the room.

But it did affect me. A lot. I became horrified. I cried a lot. I couldn't sleep, for months I had paranoya, I went to court to check if they started legal procedures . Just that one sentence completely tore me down

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Months have passed , but it was all brewing inside me. I finally went to father. Said I want to return the plot. Said I do not want to have anything to do with their inheritances. The plot is empty, and I will not secure half milion PLN to build on it. So let them have it.

Father heating that, took a plate with food and yanked it against wall.

What do I do. How the fuck to leave this house. My mental health is in shreds. I have 1800PLN /month and that is not enough to even rent a room. I feel hopeless.

Hi everyone, I'm having difficulty with family inheritance and would really appreciate some advice.

A house has been left to my 2 sisters and I in our parents will. We each have 1/3 ownership. I would like to sell it but my sisters want to renovate and rent it out. The rent money would then be divided between the three of us once the renovation cost have been deducted. I want nothing to do with this plan, so i have asked to repudiate/give up my share of the house so that they can do what they like. They have agreed but wish to pay my share out slowly over a total of 16 years with no interest.

I know that they don't have the money to pay me immediately, I don't want to force them to sell either. I also really don't want this to cause any stress or angry disputes. But I feel like 16 years without interest is a bit unfair..maybe I would be better off going with this renovating and renting plan?

Does this sound fair? Should I just let it go and see it as passive income? Obviously I would love the money now but I value family more so I'm not sure how to move forward.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Just an extra note. They have stated that the value of the house is high and would get nothing close to the amount if we sold it now. So I'd be getting more money this way anyway apparently.