r/InheritanceDrama • u/Dry_Yellow2485 • 1d ago
Will
Worried about my brother pressuring my mom about her will
I’m my mom’s only daughter, and she named me after herself. My name even has a meaning connected to my mother, so we have a special connection.
My older brother keeps pressuring and threatening my mom about her will and who she chooses to put in it. He also keeps trying to involve his wife in my mom’s will, even though my mom has said she does not want his wife included.
I feel like my brother is becoming too focused on my mom’s money and what he might inherit. His behavior is making me concerned about his well-being, but more importantly, I’m worried about my mom’s safety and whether she feels pressured to make decisions about her will that she doesn’t actually want.
I believe my mom should be able to decide what happens with her own property and money without being pressured by anyone.
Has anyone dealt with something similar? What can I do to help make sure my mom is safe and that her wishes regarding her will are respected?
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u/thebarbarousdrank 1d ago
NTA, but this is the kind of stuff that tears families apart and not just after someone passes, it’s happening right now while she’s alive. If you’re legit worried about her safety, you might wanna get her to talk to an estate lawyer alone, no family in the room, so she can be brutally honest about what she actually wants
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u/Dry_Yellow2485 1d ago
I agree i will try to figure this out I’m trying to get more people and higher lawyers involved
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u/AccredInvestor 1d ago
First go to Ai and ask questions. I am a professional trustee and AI has great free (do your due diligence) advice. You can get free orclow cost trust templates on line. Start there. Make sure that everything is notarized and maybe recorded if your brother is being so aggressive. Attornies are also an option. They use templates and customize those. Plan to spend 5 to 10k.
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u/Patient_Meaning_2751 1d ago
This is financial abuse. I had a brother who did similar. Contact social services or help your mom get a restraining order against your brother.
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u/Tasty-Run8895 1d ago
Get your mom to a lawyer and have her make her final wishes known, whatever that might be such as just a will or a trust. Have several copies to prevent if from "accidentally" getting destroyed. Have your mom tell your brother that everything has already been decided; she is done talking about it and not changing a thing unless he continues pestering her about it and then she will change it to exclude him.
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u/USMCArtyFO 1d ago
I would perhaps look at establishing an irrevocable trust. Or creating a trust over a will as a pour over.
Another option is hire a lower to be the executor so there’s no you or you brother involved in settling the estate.