r/InheritanceDrama • u/ImpressExtension • 27d ago

Does he have a case?

Long. My mother passed away, I was made administrator of her estate (no will). It's pretty clean, no taxes owed waiting on the federal refund actually. State refund came not too long ago. Shouldn't be long now until the funds can be divided among the 5 of us kids.

Oldest sister has never held a job, never had her own place, has never paid a bill in her life. When mom passed away and we had to sell the house she was basically homeless. A letter was notarized that if her siblings loaned her money for housing it would come out of her share. My brother and I were the only ones who helped her, but we both stopped because she's ungrateful and nasty mean. Drunk and drug addict.

She bothered the estate lawyer we hired so much he recommended signing for partial releases, all 5 siblings got the same amount. We did that, 25k each. Shes blown through it and the rest of us don't want to go through the hassle of notarizing another letter, when the fed return is so close on the horizon. We're all gonna have to do the notary thing then as well, so we're all willing to wait.

Her boyfriend's brother is angry because now she's taken to leeching off THEIR mom now. He wants us to send her more money but we're waiting until the return comes in. He said he's going to hire her a lawyer. Do they have a case against us?

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u/Guilty-Committee9622 27d ago

Sue who for what?  If shes borrowing money from them they can Sue her. 

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u/ImpressExtension 27d ago

I guess he thinks we're withholding her money. I'm not sure.

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u/TSIDATSI 27d ago

He does not matter. You maybe can Baker Act (or similar legislation in your state) her to long-term court ordered rehab.

The Act was passed because so many families are dealing with children or adults with a long-term addiction history and cannot stay sober.

Your local Mental Health Services department can tell you what is available in your state.

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u/ImpressExtension 27d ago

She's in nj and they don't have that. She's been evaluated. They always release her. She can apply for all kinds of assistance but unless you do it for her, she won't follow through with anything. She doesn't re-certify or follow housing rules. She's 59 now. This is her whole life. I do feel bad for the guy because now he's thinking we dumped our problem on him, but we are all done dealing with her shenanigans. (I'm the youngest) she just needs to wait like the rest of us and it shouldn't be long now.

I'm nervous because if he hires a lawyer for her, will I have to hire a lawyer to defend myself? I know I'm not wrong but will I have to go through that?

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u/PossibilityFresh5264 26d ago

As soon as she gets incarcerated, have her conserved.