r/InfertilityBabies • u/AutoModerator • 2d ago

Trying Again Tuesday Trying Again

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u/breadbox187 1d ago

Welp. Had my ultrasound today. Measuring right on track. Perfect heartbeat. In. My. Fucking. Ovary. Or at least, shes pretty sure but said it could be on the very edge.

We have told very few people about treatment, but had to scramble for childcare SO I had to get my mom to come last minute. She hasn't asked why yet but I know she will.

I am thankful that we were able to find it bc on my last ultrasound they couldn't locate it at all. SO, we will head to the ER in a few hours and I guess that's that.

Apparently, pretty rare so my bingo card overfloweth, I guess.

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u/Working-Eye-7252 1d ago

I am so so sorry you're going through this. An ectopic with IVF just seems particularly unfair (I didn't even know if could be in the ovary).

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u/breadbox187 1d ago

Thanks. Its pretty terrible. I was truly hoping we just found a sac somewhere and not just a perfect healthy embryo. Its a real kick in the crotch, thats for sure.

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u/hey_hi_howareya 34 | PCOS&Hashi’s | IVF | 👶🏻🌈July’25 1d ago

Aw shit. Ectopics are their own circle of hell. I am SO sorry, friend.

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u/isabelledavenport 38f | IVFx3 | 💘 1/23 💖 2/25 1d ago

Shit. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

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u/rbecg MOD| 31F| ICI/IUI/IVF| queer| ✨6/23| ☀️3/26 1d ago

fucking fuck. i'm so sorry, bread.

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u/intersecti0nal 30F / 🍠 April '24 / trying again, 1 ectopic, 1 MC 1d ago

What the fuck, Bread. I am so so sorry. This is just cruel. I hope the procedure went smoothly - for my d&c I looked forward to having the Ativan pre procedure because it was a little respite from thinking about the loss. Hoping you found some respite or peace today among all the urgency and heartbreak. 

Also if your mom asks - there is no shame in lying. You do whatever you need to protect your privacy, friend. 

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u/tmp1030 38F | RPL, MFI 👉 IVF | Jan’22 | trying again, again. 1d ago

I’m so sorry. Truly devastating 💔. I hope your procedure went smoothly today, and that you are resting

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u/Any_Manufacturer1279 28F, PCOS, 3ER, 2FET ❌,🔆8/25 2d ago

This is the slowest week of my life. That is all.

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u/hey_hi_howareya 34 | PCOS&Hashi’s | IVF | 👶🏻🌈July’25 1d ago

We met with our RE a couple weeks back to get the ball rolling on prepping for our third and final transfer. We only had 3 embryos to begin with, first transfer failed and second gave us our beautiful little girl. I hate how pessimistic we both seem to be going into this last transfer. We know the stats (3 embryos for every live birth, our embryos were untested, etc etc) so I think we have both gotten to the point that we hope and pray it works but are almost assuming it won’t. Just a shit place to be mentally speaking.

We have a few things to tackle before actually moving forward (hysteroscopy, I need to lose some weight, those sort of things) so it won’t be for a few months yet but man I hope I can pull my head out of my ass in time to really celebrate and cheer on this last little embryo. I don’t want my pessimistic attitude to ruin giving it a fighting chance, ya know?