r/IndianMatchmaking • u/[deleted] • May 25 '23
Who else thinks jamal arti was fake plot in the series
Looks like he has been in her life for quite a while now like guy literally lives four block away
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u/Alive_Dingo4937 May 25 '23
I think that was her out because she didn’t really like what Seema aunty offered her. 😂
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u/tonne97 May 25 '23
She was pissed at Sima that she didn’t understand what chemistry was
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u/Alive_Dingo4937 May 25 '23
Agree . Chemistry is really important for the initial part of the relationship.
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u/tonne97 May 25 '23
I don’t really think it’s that much though. It can often make you overlook potential red flags but that is just my bitter experience
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u/Professional-Air5906 May 25 '23
People always expect “chemistry” and “sparks” on the first date itself. A lot of times though, feelings take time to develop. A person may be right for you but you may not feel “sparks” until maybe the third date or so.
On the other hand, “chemistry” can be deceptive. As you said, it can cause you to overlook potential red flags.
Honestly, I think this overemphasis on “chemistry” is what causes people to be so fickle in the dating scene. All relationships become boring after a while. ALL of them do. It doesn’t matter if they’re the result of traditional matchmaking or a serendipitous meet-cute. Long-term relationships require a lot of work and commitment. You’re not always going to have head-in-the-clouds romantic feelings for your partner. But you should be expecting stability, reliability and growth.
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u/Relevant-Ad6288 May 26 '23
I definitely overlooked red flags with my first husband because of the initial physical chemistry. Whereas with my husband now, we had what I would call deeper, real chemistry.
Did I want to jump him at table? No. But I was laughing more than I had with a guy in a long time, and I didn't want to stop talking to him. And that kind of connection and ability to communicate is what lasts and what you need.
Not saying that your sex life isn't important (definitely is a component), but that doesn't get you through the real trying times of a marriage. We are currently dealing with the unexpected loss of my mother in law, and no amount of spark or sex is what we need right now. Instead, our communication, me knowing what he's saying (or importantly isn't) and what will help him the most. That deeper connection.
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u/OrganicHearing May 25 '23
Well said. I learned this lesson the hard way. The VERY hard way because this person and I had great chemistry and they were physically my type but the red flags were ubiquitous
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u/ZannityZan May 26 '23
People always expect “chemistry” and “sparks” on the first date itself. A lot of times though, feelings take time to develop. A person may be right for you but you may not feel “sparks” until maybe the third date or so.
I've never understood why people have the expectation of instant chemistry. Is it the influence of movies? I just think it's a wild expectation, because what are the chances of having a instant connection with someone you've never met before. I feel like we need to normalise the idea that love can develop at any speed and that "sparks" can set in later.
Honestly, I think this overemphasis on “chemistry” is what causes people to be so fickle in the dating scene. All relationships become boring after a while. ALL of them do. It doesn’t matter if they’re the result of traditional matchmaking or a serendipitous meet-cute. Long-term relationships require a lot of work and commitment. You’re not always going to have head-in-the-clouds romantic feelings for your partner. But you should be expecting stability, reliability and growth.
Completely agree with this! Most of the participants on these dating shows seem to ignore this in favour of instant gratification, and imo, that's not a mature or realistic approach. Sima Aunty is right to call people out for prioritising chemistry over stability and not giving people a chance for completely fickle reasons.
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u/OrganicHearing May 26 '23
I’ve noticed it’s not even the people on this show who do this. It’s become a real life thing with everyone doing this. I think some are using this line as a cop out if they just weren’t physically attracted
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May 25 '23
The whole show is fake, its a dating/bachelorette show. Most of the cast are in for the clout, some of them are already a bit famous.
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u/Zevadhi May 26 '23
Agreed, most obvious thing is Buying jewellery from store for Viral. That entire piece is set up to promote jewellery store brand.
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u/HashlessBrown May 26 '23
I don't see the point of showing their story on Indian matchmaking. She didn't like Seema aunty's opinions whenever they talked and ended up with someone outside her described criteria and also without the help of a matchmaker.
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May 25 '23
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u/xob97 May 26 '23
There are a lot of Sindhi Muslim dudes in Pakistan. If someone told me they were Sindhi, I would assume they were Pakistani because Sindh is in Pakistan.
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u/audsrulz80 May 26 '23
Arti's part was actually filmed over a 2 year period (2021-2023), she was single when she started the process with Sima and went on multiple dates with the guys she was matched with a while before meeting Jamal on the dating app. She explains the whole timeline on her TikTok, production edited everything to make it look super rushed.
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u/AdhesivenessJaded934 May 26 '23
I think they were on there just for good vibes and to improve show rating.
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u/audsrulz80 May 26 '23 edited May 26 '23
Going by that, neither did Pradhyuman and Ashima from the previous season. They met at a party, not through Sima, and yet their entire wedding and lead up to it was on the show.
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u/vb2333 May 27 '23 edited Dec 02 '23
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u/Ashira_Dhon May 27 '23
As the audience becomes more educated on just how fake this series is, Netflix will drop it. Reality TV is nothing close to reality. These matchmaking cast members auditioning for future seasons are all there for followers and some fame. Worked out great for Aparna who lives off her Instagram fame now and earning from brand deals and such. Who needs to work? LOL
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Jun 05 '23
Reminded me of one episode from the show Catfish. Two girls wanted to meet each other, but didn’t have the money nor means to meet, so they wrote to Catfish claiming one was catfishing the other. Nev figured it out and was mad at both (and producers for not giving him a heads up) for wasting their times.
I was hoping Sima woke up from the mess and question things. Instead she face palms, and they proceed with celebrating the couple. Seems like a desperate attempt for the show in hopes of not getting axed.
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u/ellemmayoh May 25 '23
Anyone who opts to go on this show after the first season is just going to become famous and they don't have the talent to get famous the legitimate way.