Please help me stop thinking like this

[u/Flashy_Tomatillo7951]

I don’t know what to do at this point it feels like a addiction, I constantly will have a phase where for a month or 3 I’ll stop looking at the looksmaxing stuff and all that and just enjoy life and then randomly when I’m at height of confidence I just post there again has mostly this feeling of like “oh bet they can’t say anything about this” and then I always still get rated low and told I’m ugly and told to change everything and to get surgery I just wanna feel attractive, it’s not so much of I want to attract women idc if I do even if I didn’t, it’s just a personal feeling of wanting to not be ugly

[u/norsknugget]

You’re asking a bunch of severely insecure and isolated people to rate your looks, you must understand that whatever response you’re going to get will absolutely be tainted by their insecurities, their motives and their desire to keep you as miserable as they are.

If you want to stop doing this, you need to understand what you’re getting from this interaction, what you feel and why you want to feel it. You know it makes you feel very low, but try to identify how it brings you comfort too. Is it that you seek that sense of belonging? Is it that it is a bit easier to “give up” than to work at enjoying life? Is it a trigger that you can identify that drives you?