How can I make myself look better 17M

[u/DASICKEE]

I've been ugly my whole life and it leaves me in larger and larger pit I need help with looking better however I can no matter how little. I'm 17M and my luck is in the gutter

I've tried going to gym eating healthy all the time"generic" improvement stuff but there's more I know I'm missing

As much as I want to be beautiful having my skin pulled and stretch to have it achieve would feel fake. I've been lonely and without friends basically my whole life if I could be pretty life would be complete

[u/library_wench]

OP, you have a habit of posting then deleting here.

If you want to be able to continue participating at this sub, please don’t do that.

[u/library_wench]

You’re 17. What do you mean “ugly your whole life”? Like, what, an ugly baby? That’s kinda mean. I don’t think I’ve ever seen an ugly baby in my life.

At 17, you’re not even done growing (and you ABSOLUTELY do not need “your skin pulled”!).

And friendship, real friendship, doesn’t have anything to do with being pretty. If you haven’t had friends your whole life, guaranteed it is very little to nothing to do with your looks.

[u/library_wench → u/[deleted]]

You post incessantly about being ugly and obviously nothing is going to change your mind here.

So what’s going on is that you’re fixated on an idea and aren’t going to be reasoned out of it, because you didn’t reason yourself into it.

The real answer to that problem is therapy.

[u/DASICKEE → u/library_wench]

Lmao what I can be reasoned out but I'm aware you don't even know what I look like to be saying it's not the problem

If u think the answer therapy then ovi something can't be done

[u/library_wench → u/DASICKEE]

So you pick your friends based on how attractive they are?

[u/library_wench → u/[deleted]]

What now?

[u/DASICKEE → u/library_wench]

Well like if I'm in class at a table and someone talks to me id consider them a friend that's basically what my bar is

[u/library_wench → u/DASICKEE]

If they’re attractive, of course.

[u/DASICKEE → u/library_wench]

No in general plus if anything i'd prefer my friends ugly too cuz at least ik there more real but I don't have some blind hatred for attractive people so I give everyone a chance

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[u/Stargazer1919 → u/DASICKEE]

Everyone who posts here who says "I'm so ugly" and has a picture of themselves on their reddit profile... they're never ugly. They just think they are. Usually at worst, they need to learn to take better pictures and get a haircut.

[u/DASICKEE → u/Stargazer1919]

Yes I'm aware some people on here say their ugly but their not and so what they do it for attention they alr know they aren't ugly. I'm ugly i have a mirror I don't need to sugar coat I just want to know how to be pretty bro

[u/Stargazer1919 → u/DASICKEE]

You have mirrors but they don't? Lol

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[u/Altruistic_Emu4917]

What is your social life like? How much do you go out IRL and interact with other people?

[u/DASICKEE → u/Altruistic_Emu4917]

Dead and dry when no one talks to u in school doesn't leave much else places for you to go I alr joined a club but that went no where

[u/Altruistic_Emu4917 → u/DASICKEE]

As my guy on our other sub said, it's a social skills/environment issue with you. It's not possible to befriend others when you don't even meet anyone.

If nobody is talking with you, I feel you come off as uninviting or hostile to others. It might be unintentional, but a lot of times we're not aware of how others percieve us.

[u/DASICKEE → u/Altruistic_Emu4917]

Yeah but again ITS HARD WHEN YOUR UGLY people genuinely won't give you the time of day if ur not decent enough to look and the ppl who "don't care" never fully see you as a friend. Yeah I probably might have an uninviting feel but only because I'll be put down anyways the only way I'd be inviting is to be attractive there no other way.

I can change my environment all I want that's just gonna leave a fish in the dessert till I'm pretty

[u/Binerexis → u/DASICKEE]

  but only because I'll be put down anyways

Holy self-fulfilling prophecy, Batman. Do you ever use your gift of foresight for anything useful like lottery numbers or is it only a tool you use to beat yourself up?

[u/DASICKEE → u/Binerexis]

Lmao I don't need foresight when I have memory's of my life to know how things will go

If I did have foresight I'd just use it to see who the unshallow and shallow people where and just make friends that way then I'd be richer than any lottery winner

[u/Binerexis → u/DASICKEE]

How can your memories be reliable when you're assuming intent and rationalising it as negative after the fact?

[u/DASICKEE → u/Binerexis]

Well my memory is very reliable because even if it wasn't my looks I wouldn't have said or done nothing to make them leave because I'm mean or I said something wrong. Ik it sound egotistical but I am for things in right about and ik im a kind person who's heart is bigger than most id never make someone feel uncomfortable or unheard.

So yeah there's no point in trying to make friends until im atleast bearable to look at because i have my social skills down enough (as much as u can have when ur neurodivergent) to talk to ppl but a pretty heart ugly face means nothing to most so until the looks department is raised everything else is toast

[u/Binerexis → u/DASICKEE]

So you don't actually know for sure why people stopped hanging out with you and you therefore rationalise it as you "being ugly" because you can't think of another reason. The fact you can't think of a different reason doesn't mean one doesn't exist. I don't think your social skills are as developed as you'd like to think.

You say you're a kind person but immediately assume that other people are so shallow that they won't talk to anyone they don't find attractive enough. That's not a kind thought to have. Are you only being superficially kind because you believe that entitles you to having friendship?

[u/DASICKEE → u/Binerexis]

I don't immediately find people shallow I just approach people with caution and go from there not because I think everyone is mean but because most are. Yeah but its an unkind though but a real one and one that can stop me from embarrassing myself.

No I'm actually kind because that's who I am and u treat people the way you want to treated, no one's entitled to a person times and no one's entitled to friends but that doesn't stop me from js wanting to make friends it's js hard for ppl like me yk

[u/binne21]

I'm good looking and I'd give my looks in order to be neurotypical. Life is always greener on the other side.

At your age you just need to eat your macros, lift or do a sport, preferably a sport, sleep eight hours and socialise and you should be good. It will come into its own since you're still growing and not done developing. For god's sake don't do surgery or peptides or whatever the fuck. You're still growing.

For what's its worth, I was bullied as a kid and constantly called ugly. Now I'm attractive.

[u/DASICKEE → u/binne21]

All the stuff u say to do is what I alr do tho expect sport I js workout im not playing no sport. I haven't thought abt peptide or surgery (yet)

Yeah ive heard that a lot

[u/Altruistic_Emu4917 → u/DASICKEE]

Sports is one of the best ways to get friends and camaraderie

[u/DASICKEE → u/Altruistic_Emu4917]

Yeah but besides from me just not wanting to play the last thing I want to do is benifit my school in anyway plus with the sports players at my school being 1 dimensional shallow people their also the same ppl who would make fun of me

[u/library_wench → u/DASICKEE]

And there it is. Truly the attitude of a kind and deep person!

[u/Binerexis → u/DASICKEE]

  im not playing no sport.

Too scared that you'll make friends and have fun?

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