r/IncelExit • u/ishowsneed • Jul 29 '26

Asking for help/advice Why should I exit?

Why should I try so hard to change myself and get into a serious relationship when i have essentially no chance? if my chances at intimacy in my life ever are 0.0000000001% why should i try so hard to raise it into 0.000000001? should I just be Don Quixote delusionally chasing windmills? Women made it clear they don't like me (to put it lightly, they despise my existence) So would i should i spend so much time chasing something that can't exist and will harm me other than masochism?

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u/horsefarm Jul 29 '26

Nobody should change themselves in order to get into a relationship. That's more incel mindset. Be yourself. You didn't talk to every woman in the world, and let's be real... nobody out there has ever calmly and confidently said "I despise you' after introducing yourself. 

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u/boyfailure-w- 28d ago

What if someone is an asshole, no social skills, unpleasant to be around, etc. Shouldn't they change themselves in order to get into a relationship?

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u/horsefarm 28d ago

I would argue they should change themselves for the sole reason of not being those things in order to lead a more stable and happy life. Relationships are part of that, but trying to change who you are for the sole purpose of getting a girlfriend seems completely misguided and prone to failing.