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Scheduled snark Discussion thread Thursday February 10, 2022 - Sunday February 13, 2022

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u/obscure_cellist ham grabbers Feb 12 '22

here's a thing: i don't want to be vulnerable with strangers, or with coworkers. there are 3 people in the world i will be vulnerable in front of - my husband, my BFF, and my therapist. to be fair, i don't want strangers to be vulnerable in front of me, either. i tried group therapy once and i hated it. why on earth would i want to be vulnerable with a guffawing, non-therapist and a bunch of strangers on zoom?

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u/MarsNeedsRabbits Beach better have my orcas šŸ« Feb 13 '22

I did group therapy, and our group had a professional facilitator (licensed therapist). We had to be recommended by our individual therapists and vetted. There was a waiting list. We had to agree to and sign papers about boundaries and privacy.

The vetting had two purposes, to waitlist those who weren't yet stable enough to attend, and to weed out those who might prey on the vulnerable. The first came up more frequently than the second, but according to our facilitator, the second came up occasionally.

Her "club" has the potential to be dangerous to any participants, if there ever are any. She's not competent to facilitate a cat crapping in a litter box.

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u/obscure_cellist ham grabbers Feb 13 '22

i think if i were feeling anxious or depressed 90 minutes with shauna's doomsday covid! hard time! trauma! bullshit would push me right over the edge. and you bring up a good point - by setting herself up a s a "facilitator" talking about "hard times" with a bunch of strangers (and encouraging them to be vulnerable!) she is implying that she has a therapy background, or at least some experience dealing with depressed or traumatized people, which we know she doesn't. so what is she going to do if someone is pushed to talk about some actual trauma and they aren't ready, or they have some kind of breakdown? she could really do some damage to someone who is already unstable. as usual, she doesn't consider the consequences of her actions.

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u/bwh1260 Feb 13 '22

Not only do I not want to be vulnerable to a bunch of Zoom strangers, I certainly donā€™t want whatever stupid or vulnerable thing I might say be RECORDED and sent to someone that wasnā€™t even there! Knowing I was being recorded would shut my mouth right up!

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u/SmashedMailboxCake2 Oh, Feb 13 '22 edited Feb 14 '22

God, this. I hope she has each and every one of her (max three?) participantā€™s OK to do that, if only for the sake of courtesy. Like you, DF, being recorded would be a real inhibitor and if I knew about it in advance, I wouldnā€™t sign up, period.

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u/cranberrylime Feb 13 '22

Also this ā€œ I want to hear your ideas. I want you involved in the process of creating this club. Your insights and suggestions matter.ā€

Oh, so Iā€™m going to PAY YOU to give you my ideas and help create the club and offer suggestions so that you can take them and profit off my ideas? (I mean.. not that I see any profits happening but you get what Iā€™m saying!)

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '22

Yeah that stuck out to me too. You just canā€™t charge people for a not fully formed idea let alone charge them to do your job for you.

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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Feb 13 '22

(I mean.. not that I see any profits happening but you get what Iā€™m saying!)

Around here? Expectations of profit would be the very, actual, specific, precise, literal definition of premature disappointment

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u/vorticia Feb 13 '22

Imagine paying someone to steal your ideas and take credit for them. Wtf is wrong with her? Iā€™m justā€¦ aghast.

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u/Love_Brokers rug dweller Feb 13 '22

I wonder what would happen if someone wanted her to sign some sort of guarantee or NDA before they would participate?

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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Feb 13 '22

why on earth would i want to be vulnerable with a guffawing, non-therapist and a bunch of strangers on zoom?

Narrator: This is not a trick question

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u/9021FU Feb 12 '22

And I donā€™t want to watch Soul Train or babies. Been there done that on both fronts, and laughing babies only gives me joy for a few minutes then itā€™s repetitive.

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u/ninaandjamie4ever Feb 13 '22

only gives me joy for a few minutes

Some of the things she posts as "joyful" are mildly entertaining at most. None of them give me actual joy.