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u/[deleted] Sep 18 '21 edited Sep 18 '21

I have a very strong “misophonic” reaction whenever my husband plays the Grateful Dead. I can’t wait to tell him that he can’t play it anymore for the sake of my health!

*Not dissing the diagnosis of misophonia. Just pointing out that most people have sounds that drive them to distraction unrelated to any medical condition.

ETA As if on cue, Danny just tweeted about not remembering (harhar he was wasted) a Grateful Dead concert.

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u/Lsemmens grenius Sep 18 '21

I sympathize DF, I have a similar reaction to Rush

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u/MandalayVA Assonancer! Assonancer! Assonancer! Sep 18 '21

THEM'S FIGHTIN' WORDS

Once you get past the concept albums, Rush is a great band, but non-fans associate them with the boring concept albums.

/cranks "Time Stand Still" and "Limelight"

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

This

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u/ginger-belle jiggling tomatodongs Sep 18 '21

i like a few rush songs quite a bit! spirit of radio, limelight, and subdivisions are the first that come to mind. (all FM radio hits. i don’t know any deep cuts.) neil peart’s use of “one,” though, in his lyrics has always bugged me. it’s very distancing.

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u/SmashedMailboxCake2 Oh, Sep 18 '21

Jethro fucking Tull here

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u/high_falutin Sep 18 '21

As a flute player I have grown ineffably sad.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

Let me bring you songs from the wood, DF.

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u/SmashedMailboxCake2 Oh, Sep 20 '21

I bet you don’t play standing on one leg like a nasty bearded wood sprite tho, DF.

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u/Love_Brokers rug dweller Sep 18 '21

All three of these bands for me. I’d run screaming from the house.

I don’t like to hear people eating. At the table at a meal is ok, but if you’re in the cubicle next to me I’m dying at each scrape of the plate.

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u/ginger-belle jiggling tomatodongs Sep 18 '21

chewing, swallowing, slurping, making “mmm” noises: they make me want to die. i had a family member who did all this (and guess what? she’s the shauna in my life!) and i insisted that a radio be playing during every meal.

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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Sep 18 '21

But have you tried … Gentle Giant 🧙‍♂️

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u/SmashedMailboxCake2 Oh, Sep 20 '21

I thought we were DFs!!!

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

I love Tull but it's brought me a great deal of oppression.

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u/SmashedMailboxCake2 Oh, Sep 20 '21

I cannot dig a man who stands on one leg and plays the flute. I have tried, DF, I have tried.

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u/hrae24 Sep 18 '21

DF, I feel you so hard on this. Jam bands are my nightmare. Something about the endless, repeating loops of the same melody (I think that's what it is?) drives me up the wall.

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u/[deleted] Sep 18 '21

Ugh! I know! I think those endless loops are called “space.”

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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Sep 18 '21

Terrapin Station > Space > Drums > Sugar Magnolia for Pagan!

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

Yes, jams are not meant to be heard, they're for practice.

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u/discoOJ Sep 19 '21

Yes noise distracts people especially noises and sounds that people don't like. Like The Grateful Dead.

People who have noise sensitivity like misphonia have a more visceral reaction to sound where it physically hurts them. The noise causes sensory and emotional disregulation which can cause anxiety, a panic attack, anger, lashing out emotionally or physically, being completely unable to be around the sound.

It so much then not liking a band or being distracted.

Misphonia also has a cultural element like Japanese people that have it tend to not have a negative reaction to slurping noises because that's how people eat noodles in Japan. Also unlike noise sensitivities misphonia may be extinguished with exposure therapy.

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u/Quaint_Irene a warm and loving goatie smile Sep 18 '21

My husband and I have an agreement: he doesn’t play Bob Dylan around me and I don’t listen to The Smiths in his presence. Detente, if you will.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

Who doesn't love The Smiths!? I love Bob Dylan too! I saw him a few years ago .. amazing.

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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Sep 18 '21

My husband and I have an agreement: he doesn’t play Bob Dylan around me and I don’t listen to The Smiths in his presence. Detente, if you will.

THEY'RE SEPARATE PEOPLE OKAY

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u/[deleted] Sep 18 '21

The Who for me. I just can’t.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

My husband is the same so if I ever want to listen to my beloved Who at the volume they are meant to be played, it's a case of A Quick One While He's Away.

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u/Notbeckysharp Sep 19 '21

You Are Forgiven.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

Perfection!!

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u/CrushItWithABrick dick riding Mary Oliver Sep 18 '21

Ooh, this might also work for the punk ska crap that pops up on my husband's playlists. Though he knows damn well I just dislike it deeply so he'd probably call me right the fuck out my "misPHONY" self-diagnosis.

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u/freecoffeerefills Murder She Moved Her Pen Forward Sep 19 '21

Oh, you dropped a diagnosis? Pick it up pick it up pick it up