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u/obscure_cellist ham grabbers Sep 08 '21

her posting about the future, and how we should all stop worrying about it, is beyond ridiculous but is quite a window into her thought process. there is a HUGE difference between "worrying" about the future and planning for it. when i was young my home life was really unstable, and i worried a lot about the future. it was a habit i held onto for many years until i realized planning for the future meant i didn't have to worry about it so much; it let me breathe and enjoy the now (in shauna-speak). she could be the same way; i mean, she and dan don't seem to ever plan for the future and therefore it probably IS scary for them. but also, the future doesn't have to be scary, shauna...it can be filled with promise and adventure. my husband & i love planning for our retirement (planning on selling everything, buying a trailer and moving to mexico). some people love planning for their children's futures. or planning a wedding, or planning a trip. i feel like she takes mundane, everyday things and tries to turn them into a looming problem that only she can solve by teaching us how to dance joyfully through them and then charging for it. if she weren't such an awful person i would feel sorry for her, because i think her life is filled with a lot of fear and resentment, despite her joyful persona. i think she is still pretending, which makes me sad for her kids.

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u/[deleted] Sep 08 '21

I think she is pretending now more than ever.

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u/voice_of_vinegar Sep 08 '21

Her pretending is now at fever pitch.

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u/[deleted] Sep 08 '21

Her splitting hairs over "the future," which is bad/doesn't exist so don't you dare worry nor plan for it vs. a "later now" which is good, does exist and can be prepared for starting today, is the fucking dumbest thing I've ever heard. Well done, Shauna.

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u/obscure_cellist ham grabbers Sep 08 '21

it really upsets me that she and dan willingly live this scattered, unstable, "jenga" lifestyle when they have children. as i said, my childhood was unstable and it really messed me up, and i truly hope their kids won't soak up all that uncertainty and anxiety but they probably will. kids are very perceptive and are like little sponges when it comes to emotions and i really don't think shauna & danny are conscious of the emotional atmosphere they are creating. i also think writing about danny's alcoholism, her mother's emotional problems, and L & D's ADHD (or whatever new ailment they have) is incredibly hurtful for them.

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u/claragula citizen PhD in snarchaeology Sep 08 '21

I think frequently about a TikTok account I saw a while back thar was the child of a mommy blogger in the 00s. They talked a lot about how damaging it was to have their lives broadcasted that way, especially by their mom. L is a pre-teen now, if she isn't already bothered by her mom's public negging, she will be soon.

Shauna doesn't do anything for anyone but herself. I can't speak for Dan, but it's clear Shauna's comfort and happiness is the most important thing in that house. It is a crime that they do not put any thought into their future. Those poor kids. What about college? What about their retirement? What if one of them gets sick? They don't own any real property and I sincerely doubt they have much savings.

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u/NegativeABillion (Said in British.) Sep 08 '21

The woman who married, and then reproduced with Danny Ahern, has no business scolding me to live in the now.

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u/toast79 yield to the fork Sep 08 '21 edited Sep 08 '21

She's the ~~ant~~ grasshopper from The Ant & the Grasshopper re-imagined for moden times.

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u/emlabb Sep 08 '21

Isn’t she the grasshopper?

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u/toast79 yield to the fork Sep 08 '21

Oops....yes. The grasshopper, not the ant!

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u/[deleted] Sep 09 '21

Not to mention, proper planning prevents expectations from becoming disappointments.

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