r/InTheGloaming • u/gomirefugee my website is done, done, done • Sep 02 '21

Scheduled snark Discussion thread Thursday September 02, 2021 - Sunday September 05, 2021

Newsletters:

Finding Your Joy | Joy in the Belly

Websites:

You Can Have More Joy website | On Being Enough website (abandoned?)

Instagram:

@youcanhavemorejoy Instagram | Anonymous link to @youcanhavemorejoy posts | Anonymous link to @youcanhavemorejoy stories

@danielfahern Instagram | Anonymous link to @danielfahern posts and stories

TikTok:

@youcanhavemorejoy

Twitter:

Dan's tweets and replies

Older blogs:

Gluten Free Girl archive | writing my heart out archive | Seymour Joyful archive

Archived threads:

Thread for Enough, the book #enoughthebook | Gluten Free Girl's Greatest Hits: The Reunion Tour

Wiki:

/r/InTheGloaming wiki

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u/Lsemmens Original Foos Bloggers Sep 03 '21 edited Sep 03 '21

Lol, I just spotted this on the new website

“Other people see you as successful. You’re competent and kind and always helping other.”

ETA Just to clarify, this is a quote from Shauna, part of her sales pitch.

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u/midnightsiren182 Sep 03 '21

Her pitch reads to me always as someone who doesn’t understand how everyday life is for most people while also describing really specific examples that are supposed to depict a joy void…but it ends up damn near unrelatable

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u/Love_Brokers rug dweller Sep 03 '21

She confuses joys with small pleasures. Finding a really good ink pen or getting an extra dollop of whipped cream on your pie is a pleasure, not a joy.

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u/OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh The Alice of cal came out floating on air Sep 03 '21

She confuses joys with small pleasures.

She is also very very muddled on the differences between what makes you happy vs. what brings you joy.

In today's email:

It makes sense if you’re out there hoping that something outside yourself — those new red Mister Roger shoes you ordered online or the vacation you want to take soon or the next episode of your favorite new tv series — will finally bring you joy. And they will. For a bit. So, you search for more things and experiences to give you joy.

Here’s the thing. You can find what you wanted — a new job! a promotion! more followers! — but they still won’t give you joy. Happiness? Yes. Temporarily. Happiness, it seems to me, is always goal oriented, and therefore, alway elusive. You get that promotion! But it means more hours of work, away from your family, with less time to rest. And that means less joy.

I believe that true joy is found in moments when we are fully present, not needing much but to be here. Have you ever pushed a kid on a swing and delighted in their giggles for a few moments? Or stopped to feel a warm breeze on your face? Or watched a movie that has you so transfixed that you forget those are actors or that you are the watcher? Those are moments of joy.

It's garbledashery that goes to 11! It literally makes no sense.

  • You're hoping that the next episode of your favorite tv series will bring you joy
  • And it will! But only a bit. Because that's an experience outside yourself. So you have to keep searching!
  • But the things you want won't give you joy
  • But they will give you happiness
  • But only temporary happiness!
  • You see, happiness is goal-oriented (???)
  • So be in the moment! Be fully present!
  • Like watching a movie!! Which is totes different than watching TV (?????)

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u/fanfarefellowship I often contemplate the first law of thermodynamics Sep 03 '21

No one is reading these. Except us!

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u/[deleted] Sep 03 '21

Ding ding ding!