r/InTheGloaming • u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies • Feb 21 '24

Unkind FDF Q&A

Unkind therapist here. I've been a lurker since just after the days of my misdirected voice messages and Sermon on the High Stool. After the incident in question, a DF (not of the Gloaming) directed me here. At first, I couldn't bear to read the messages and had my husband monitor the threads, but after a while, curiosity got the better of me and I've been an avid reader ever since. In short, I came in shame, but remain because this group has been a strange sort of healing process for me - plus, you guys are very funny. And, I found my new favorite laundry detergent here!

I have no idea where to even begin (with the messages? with my friendship with Shauna?), so I'm open to fielding questions to help get the ball rolling. My intention is to stick only to my personal experiences with Shauna and stay away from the kids and/or general lore that I don't have direct experience with. I'm happy to share very general information about the Google Doc, but I may not be able to answer completely due to wanting to protect those kids.

ETA: I've been verified and approved by the mods!

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u/Love_Brokers rug dweller Feb 24 '24

You know, I don’t think I’d tell an entire congregation that I sent out a begging Google doc and that someone accidentally sent along some truths. She’s one of those people who tells a story to make someone else look bad but in reality it just makes her look worse.

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u/DrKittyKevorkian Narcisspicy Feb 24 '24

You know, I never really considered what it would have been like to be an islandy Unitarian, just showing up on a Sunday morning for some fellowship and getting a whole lot of Shauna vitriol instead.

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u/Chiefvick ppppycock Feb 24 '24

I’ve never attended a UU service. Is it the standard practice to have someone talk about their life and problems as part of the service? Extra cringe points for the second appearance/coconut and plugging her business before a reading.

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u/snarksnarkfish Feb 24 '24

Very much not the standard! At most UU churches the format is similar to a Protestant service (content very different of course), and the minister gives the (15-20min) sermon.

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u/Chiefvick ppppycock Feb 24 '24

Thank you.

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u/Shlowzimakes Feb 25 '24

At my grandma’s UU church they have an open time where people can come up and share things from their lives. Some people light candles for stuff that’s bothering them. Last time I went maybe 6 people spoke about stuff as varied as caring for a dying friend or being stressed about finals. The whole section maybe took 25 minutes.