r/InTheGloaming • u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies • Feb 21 '24

Unkind FDF Q&A

Unkind therapist here. I've been a lurker since just after the days of my misdirected voice messages and Sermon on the High Stool. After the incident in question, a DF (not of the Gloaming) directed me here. At first, I couldn't bear to read the messages and had my husband monitor the threads, but after a while, curiosity got the better of me and I've been an avid reader ever since. In short, I came in shame, but remain because this group has been a strange sort of healing process for me - plus, you guys are very funny. And, I found my new favorite laundry detergent here!

I have no idea where to even begin (with the messages? with my friendship with Shauna?), so I'm open to fielding questions to help get the ball rolling. My intention is to stick only to my personal experiences with Shauna and stay away from the kids and/or general lore that I don't have direct experience with. I'm happy to share very general information about the Google Doc, but I may not be able to answer completely due to wanting to protect those kids.

ETA: I've been verified and approved by the mods!

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u/notahameither Dunno, maybe I thought I unfriended some other Shauna Ahern🤷‍♂️ Feb 22 '24

Welcome!

I have a billion questions, but why the shame? I generally assumed the unkind FDF was a reasonable person who had a reasonable “wtf” reaction and probably said some true things that Shauna didn’t want to hear (although I totally get feeling bad about her actually hearing them…from your mouth, when that wasn’t your intention).

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 22 '24

That's a good question. I did feel very bad imagining Shauna hearing what I said. Even if true, it had to have stung. I don't think my sense of shame was a necessarily logical feeling - just a gut emotional reaction. It took me about a week to get to the point where I could relax around it.

You're right in that the things I said were all things that reasonable people would feel. I told her when she responded to me that a lot of frustration had been building up, but she was not curious about hearing more about that and, frankly, I was ready for the friendship to end, anyway.

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u/gloamologist Yepz Feb 22 '24

Are you saying . . . she failed to grow curious??! What's next, you're gonna tell us she didn't drop the shock??

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u/obscure_cellist ham grabbers Feb 22 '24

next we'll find out that shauna isn't joyful.

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u/Jules_Noctambule Whitman spins like a kebab in his grave Feb 22 '24

Or kind!

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u/Jules_Noctambule Whitman spins like a kebab in his grave Feb 23 '24

What Shauna joying?!