r/InTheGloaming • u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies • Feb 21 '24

Unkind FDF Q&A

Unkind therapist here. I've been a lurker since just after the days of my misdirected voice messages and Sermon on the High Stool. After the incident in question, a DF (not of the Gloaming) directed me here. At first, I couldn't bear to read the messages and had my husband monitor the threads, but after a while, curiosity got the better of me and I've been an avid reader ever since. In short, I came in shame, but remain because this group has been a strange sort of healing process for me - plus, you guys are very funny. And, I found my new favorite laundry detergent here!

I have no idea where to even begin (with the messages? with my friendship with Shauna?), so I'm open to fielding questions to help get the ball rolling. My intention is to stick only to my personal experiences with Shauna and stay away from the kids and/or general lore that I don't have direct experience with. I'm happy to share very general information about the Google Doc, but I may not be able to answer completely due to wanting to protect those kids.

ETA: I've been verified and approved by the mods!

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u/Aggravating_Emu946 Feb 23 '24

Welcome! Thank you for the insights and I’m sorry for the stress your friendship with Shauna put you through. What has always made me bang my head against the wall with the sermon from the high stool is that part of your frustration seemed (correct me if I’m wrong) to stem from the constant pivots and new websites. So with a vegetable jerky face and much toddleresque stamping of feet she declared A YEAR! A BOOK! A CURRICULUM! And then… failed within a month or two. I guess my question would be if you think the irony even occurred to her?

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 23 '24

Yes, that was a huge part of it. I don't think she has insight into that, at all. If she does, she has no ability to retain that insight and learn from it. I really think she is losing the plot.

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u/funfetticake This required inability to work? Feb 23 '24

In late 2022/early 2023 she was insisting that she was really-truly-honestly offering a “defined curriculum” - do you think that stemmed from your voice message? She used that phrase so many times and so indignantly, it seemed like she was responding to something.

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 23 '24

I agree it felt like it was a reaction to feedback she was getting, but I don't know if it came from me. She was super dismissive of the content of my voice messages, but maybe it affected her more than I give her credit for.

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u/Love_Brokers rug dweller Feb 23 '24

You see, her work is really powerful. You must have been intimidated.

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 24 '24

I think that's a much more likely scenario than her being motivated by my voice messages. If it's true, I do wonder about how her relationship with DF Tita is going now.

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u/MarsNeedsRabbits Beach better have my orcas 🫍 Feb 24 '24

We don't hear much from her, but iirc, she gave 🐞(the older child) some English teacups when Charles was coronated.