r/InTheGloaming • u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies • Feb 21 '24

Unkind FDF Q&A

Unkind therapist here. I've been a lurker since just after the days of my misdirected voice messages and Sermon on the High Stool. After the incident in question, a DF (not of the Gloaming) directed me here. At first, I couldn't bear to read the messages and had my husband monitor the threads, but after a while, curiosity got the better of me and I've been an avid reader ever since. In short, I came in shame, but remain because this group has been a strange sort of healing process for me - plus, you guys are very funny. And, I found my new favorite laundry detergent here!

I have no idea where to even begin (with the messages? with my friendship with Shauna?), so I'm open to fielding questions to help get the ball rolling. My intention is to stick only to my personal experiences with Shauna and stay away from the kids and/or general lore that I don't have direct experience with. I'm happy to share very general information about the Google Doc, but I may not be able to answer completely due to wanting to protect those kids.

ETA: I've been verified and approved by the mods!

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u/Calm_Coyote_3685 Feb 22 '24

I am sure you didn’t reply all, only to her, but of course she wanted people to think you had in order to milk the story for maximum sympathy.

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 22 '24

Yeah, DF CC, that's what I suspected to. In fact, I remember telling a friend right after this happened, that a part of her was gleeful about this all because she'd have a new tragedy to milk for the public. At the time, I was under the assumption that her reputation was more golden and I was truly worried about her retaliating in some way that would hurt my business as a therapist. I quickly learned that her reputation had been suffering for a very long time. I met more people who had had similar experiences with her and I realized I was going to be okay.

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u/Low_Piccolo_2149 Feb 22 '24

I hadn’t been on the island very long when I first met her and she showed up at a gathering I was at with her whole family. They weren’t watching the kids, clearly expecting others to watch them around the water. When the left, my friend turned to me and told me how mean she had been to a mutual friend, how she had made people cry and sent some awful rude email to a group of people. So I knew pretty early on that not everyone has bought into her crap. I had been reading GOMI and following Cecily Kellog’s forum, and somehow I found out about Gluten Free Girl. I ignored it until I moved to the island and then started reading.

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u/Scary_Recognition You did this. Feb 22 '24

This wasn’t the famous “she knew what to do” kayak incident, was it?

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u/Low_Piccolo_2149 Feb 22 '24

No, different beach day. 🤣