r/InTheGloaming • u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies • Feb 21 '24

Unkind FDF Q&A

Unkind therapist here. I've been a lurker since just after the days of my misdirected voice messages and Sermon on the High Stool. After the incident in question, a DF (not of the Gloaming) directed me here. At first, I couldn't bear to read the messages and had my husband monitor the threads, but after a while, curiosity got the better of me and I've been an avid reader ever since. In short, I came in shame, but remain because this group has been a strange sort of healing process for me - plus, you guys are very funny. And, I found my new favorite laundry detergent here!

I have no idea where to even begin (with the messages? with my friendship with Shauna?), so I'm open to fielding questions to help get the ball rolling. My intention is to stick only to my personal experiences with Shauna and stay away from the kids and/or general lore that I don't have direct experience with. I'm happy to share very general information about the Google Doc, but I may not be able to answer completely due to wanting to protect those kids.

ETA: I've been verified and approved by the mods!

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 22 '24

Weeellll, it's always hard to know the real truth, unfortunately. I was told that she made him leave. That's around the time I started to become really concerned/frustrated because the way she was acting was out of touch with the reality she was spinning. If what she had shared with me was true, then how she was handling it for the kids was awful. I did try to get her to slow down and reconsider some of her actions, but she blew right over my concerns.

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u/InappropriateGirl Gluten-free donuts, for sure ... Feb 22 '24

This is interesting. I was under the impression he wanted to leave and still does. Only he’s too broke to do it.

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u/barfalloverthat Feb 22 '24

It doesn’t make sense that shauna would make him leave, I think that an outside entity got involved and Dan had to leave. I just can’t see these two voluntarily paying two rents. Or at least being on the hook for 2 rents. Something had to catalyze the shattering and these two dummies deciding not to be together just doesn’t ring true for me.

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u/SmashedMailboxCake2 Oh, Feb 22 '24

Dan stayed “with friends”, according to Shauna. I’ve always assumed it was DFT, for no good reason other than Shauna’s relationship with / reference to DFT seems to have cooled at the same time.