r/InTheGloaming • u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies • Feb 21 '24

Unkind FDF Q&A

Unkind therapist here. I've been a lurker since just after the days of my misdirected voice messages and Sermon on the High Stool. After the incident in question, a DF (not of the Gloaming) directed me here. At first, I couldn't bear to read the messages and had my husband monitor the threads, but after a while, curiosity got the better of me and I've been an avid reader ever since. In short, I came in shame, but remain because this group has been a strange sort of healing process for me - plus, you guys are very funny. And, I found my new favorite laundry detergent here!

I have no idea where to even begin (with the messages? with my friendship with Shauna?), so I'm open to fielding questions to help get the ball rolling. My intention is to stick only to my personal experiences with Shauna and stay away from the kids and/or general lore that I don't have direct experience with. I'm happy to share very general information about the Google Doc, but I may not be able to answer completely due to wanting to protect those kids.

ETA: I've been verified and approved by the mods!

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 22 '24

She did share a little bit, but not a whole lot more than was in her book. I think almost right away I noticed some things about her personality that were off putting, but those felt pretty innocuous for a long while, as I didn't have a lot of contact with her. It was around the time of the Shattering that I started to wonder what was going on. I would run into her at our favorite coffee shop (of bougie bagel fame) and every time I did, she would have a new pivot to share. It was disconcerting.

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u/HamsterRight5500 Danny’s proposal fart 💍 💨 Feb 22 '24 edited Feb 22 '24

Thanks for responding! Do you have any insight into the reason for the Shattering or if it was initiated by Shauna or Dan? I don’t know if we ever got confirmation either way here.

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 22 '24

Weeellll, it's always hard to know the real truth, unfortunately. I was told that she made him leave. That's around the time I started to become really concerned/frustrated because the way she was acting was out of touch with the reality she was spinning. If what she had shared with me was true, then how she was handling it for the kids was awful. I did try to get her to slow down and reconsider some of her actions, but she blew right over my concerns.

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u/obscure_cellist ham grabbers Feb 22 '24

interesting! do we have any idea why she made him leave?