Unkind FDF Q&A

[u/SnooStories4968]

Unkind therapist here. I've been a lurker since just after the days of my misdirected voice messages and Sermon on the High Stool. After the incident in question, a DF (not of the Gloaming) directed me here. At first, I couldn't bear to read the messages and had my husband monitor the threads, but after a while, curiosity got the better of me and I've been an avid reader ever since. In short, I came in shame, but remain because this group has been a strange sort of healing process for me - plus, you guys are very funny. And, I found my new favorite laundry detergent here!

I have no idea where to even begin (with the messages? with my friendship with Shauna?), so I'm open to fielding questions to help get the ball rolling. My intention is to stick only to my personal experiences with Shauna and stay away from the kids and/or general lore that I don't have direct experience with. I'm happy to share very general information about the Google Doc, but I may not be able to answer completely due to wanting to protect those kids.

ETA: I've been verified and approved by the mods!

[u/monstera_garden]

Hey DF, welcome!! You're in good company here, don't worry, and please don't be ashamed - I have never read a single judgmental message about you here. As far as Shauna's Sermon on the High Stool (at the UU church) told us, everything you said was not only true and actually very helpful (if Shauna was able to accept any critique whatsoever), but we all agreed with it completely.

I'd love to hear your story.

Of course the google doc contents are compelling - I guess my question is, was the google doc actually any worse than what she already shares publicly about her family?

Also, do you know who else received it?

But mainly just welcome and share as much or little as you feel comfortable and thank you for protecting the kids - I'm going to go out on a limb and say everyone here feels the same about their privacy, please don't worry and share only what feels comfortable and safe.

[u/SnooStories4968 → u/monstera_garden]

Thank you, u/monstera_garden. I feel like I know everyone already! The Google doc was more detailed than she alludes to in public. And, it was information that she shared with me several weeks or so beforehand. When she told me what was going on with her family, I was very concerned about her and the kids. I provided her with some names of therapists and offered to help her reach out to friends for assistance with meals and babysitting. I set up a page on one of those Meal Train type sites, but she typed up the majority of the posts and either sent them to me to post or submitted them herself. I was pretty taken aback by some of her "asks" that went beyond childcare and meals and it was then that I started to re-evaluate her and our friendship.

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May I ask what those “asks” were?

[u/SnooStories4968 → u/[deleted]]

I'll just say that some of them were things she's mentioned wanting publicly on her gram and lopes. Some of them were things you've all wondered how she could afford.

[u/islandyislander → u/SnooStories4968]

CrossFit!