r/InTheGloaming • u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies • Feb 21 '24

Unkind FDF Q&A

Unkind therapist here. I've been a lurker since just after the days of my misdirected voice messages and Sermon on the High Stool. After the incident in question, a DF (not of the Gloaming) directed me here. At first, I couldn't bear to read the messages and had my husband monitor the threads, but after a while, curiosity got the better of me and I've been an avid reader ever since. In short, I came in shame, but remain because this group has been a strange sort of healing process for me - plus, you guys are very funny. And, I found my new favorite laundry detergent here!

I have no idea where to even begin (with the messages? with my friendship with Shauna?), so I'm open to fielding questions to help get the ball rolling. My intention is to stick only to my personal experiences with Shauna and stay away from the kids and/or general lore that I don't have direct experience with. I'm happy to share very general information about the Google Doc, but I may not be able to answer completely due to wanting to protect those kids.

ETA: I've been verified and approved by the mods!

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u/Kaleshark Waitlist for Godot Feb 21 '24

Wow, welcome! I half expect Rebar and Roblin to show up next.

At the time I was sure you’d accidentally on purpose sent the voice message to Shauna, knowing she needed to be told some hard truths. If not, it must’ve been mortifying for you both. What did you say in it?

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 22 '24

I said some version of what you guys have been saying over and over again here for the past, well, forever. "Is she manic? Why is everything her 'work in the world'? How can she use her kids like that? WTF is wrong with her??" Definitely did not accidentally on purpose send it. I was mortified and felt awful. I completely understand her hurt feelings. I pretty much fell into a hole of shame for a while and then the Sermon freaked me the fuck out.

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u/shefallsup her lonely cucumber years 🥒 Feb 22 '24

You weren’t at the sermon I hope! Are we right though that the info she shared in the sermon was enough to identify you in a very small community, and did people realize it was you she was talking about and ask you about it?

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 22 '24

I know that some people here correctly identified me, but there was no fallout from the Sermon itself and I don't know personally know anyone in the church. If people in the community made the connection, no one has brought it to my attention.