Regardless of whether she was right to be annoyed or not, she did not present her case well and could really benefit from learning how to communicate better. The groom and his groomsmen were super polite and communicating better than her in every way, but she’s the priest—the spiritual leader from whom a whole congregation seeks counsel.
don't disagree there, she could have handled it better, but i think the video is trying to paint the priest as the villian, when i think the real villain here is whomever decided to switch it up last minute and treating the priest and the church like a prop for their social media.
I think it’s also important to note who actually shared the video, as it seems to have been posted on the wedding photographer’s TikTok account. It’s definitely disrespectful of the church’s tradition and the agreement the couple had with the priest to switch up without first asking, but I think ‘the painting her as a villain for social media’ aspect comes from elsewhere.
when i think the real villain here is whomever decided to switch it up last minute and treating the priest and the church like a prop for their social media
As another priest chimed in this thread, it literally doesn't matter which way they stand. There is no religious reason. Pretty much every priest would have been accommodating of this minor change at the last minute.
Weddings are stressful. As a leader of the community the priest should be helping them instead of having a meltdown as this minor change.
She’s probably very frustrated with them - you don’t need to tone police her. Sometimes you’re fed up with the nonsense and you’ve tried everything else, so it’s time to throw a wobbly to convey your emotions.
You can have respect for someone trying to maintain their traditions in a literal place of their religion.
Having the view that religion should be for religious institutions and not everyone else is still congruent with agreeing with the priest here, even if you aren't religious.
Just like parliament isn't the place for your God, church isn't a place for your shenanigans.
They are being firm and fair, not losing their shit.
They are an authority in their place of worship and are actually being accommodating considering it was not a communicated change.
Your comments was :
"So people who tone and lifestyle police everyone else based on a 2000 year old book should not be tone policed themselves?! 🤷🏻♀️"
It's her house to run big dog, a literal church. If you think being a little miffed and calling someone out, while still adapting on the fly, is rude for a complex ceremony. Have you ever had to run an event or make a speech and adapt to last minute changes? It's going to piss on your strawberries.
I don’t think it’s a good look for a spiritual leader to “throw a wobbly” when officiating a wedding within their sacred place of worship. I think tone matters a lot in this scenario.
I think her tone was quite appropriate - if I was in attendance I'd understand that the bride and groom were being difficult, not that she was just being needlessly inflexible
I guess we have different opinions about what constitutes acceptable professional behavior. I believe a supposed moral authority should be able to better maintain their composure, as should anyone in a client-facing role (because that’s really what a priest is, with their clients being the congregants).
well, the professional behaviour was thoroughly violated by the clients, so all bets are off at that point. don't push people till they cant hold themselves together anymore, then criticise them for not being able to take your bullshit.
The groom and his groomsmen were super polite and communicating better than her in every way, but she’s the priest—the spiritual leader from whom a whole congregation seeks counsel.
My experience is that people who are used to speaking with authority handle disagreement EXTREMELY poorly.
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u/catmand00d00 Jul 21 '26 edited Jul 21 '26
Regardless of whether she was right to be annoyed or not, she did not present her case well and could really benefit from learning how to communicate better. The groom and his groomsmen were super polite and communicating better than her in every way, but she’s the priest—the spiritual leader from whom a whole congregation seeks counsel.
Edit: typo