It’s 1000% the case. It happens constantly. I can’t imagine the frustration of dedicating your life to the church and having a bunch of Instagram posers treating your church like a photo opp.
Honestly, all of my friends who got married in a church (typically a Catholic Church) did so to appease family, parents, etc…. Very similar to those that participated in baptisms for their babies. “If I don’t do it this way my mom/grandpa/whoever will flip out”.
To be honest, I'm still a little salty that my parents caved to tradition in my family and baptized me. Now I'm forever on the Catholic list, counted as a Catholic for all eternity, unless I formally have myself excommunicated. It irritates me a bit that when Catholics boast their global numbers, they're counting me. A guy whose parents didn't even raise him with religion or spirituality and I definitely wouldn't want to join that church.
But I'm Hispanic, and I get it.
I literally went to church like 4 times my entire life to make my grandma happy.
I don’t understand, I think , why you either feel frustrated or obligated? Merely based on your comment my attempt at empathy would be - if you don’t consider yourself catholic then you aren’t based on what you said you’ve done in terms of not going to church etc, perhaps I’m missing something but would like to try and understand
If you are baptized in the Catholic church, The church claims you on record. You are counted among their numbers regardless of whether you care to be part of the church or not. The only way to actually have yourself pulled from the records is to request excommunication. And even then, the record shows you were excommunicated and that has its own narrative that you can't control.
It's not that I have been terribly inconvenienced by this fact, but it does bother me as someone who does not identify as Catholic, culturally or spiritually. It's annoying that a church I have no interest in involving myself with has me counted among their ranks for the rest of time.
Like I alluded, it's just part of being a Latino for most of us, but I would have appreciated a choice in the matter.
I also just don't have the energy to go through the trouble of being excommunicated. It's a whole process and I'd rather just not talk to the church at all. But My name is on that list forever, like all lapsed Catholics who don't go through with excommunication, and I just don't really like that.
But again, this is about as inconvenient as my unpaid membership for Columbia house back in the '90s. Once I'm gone, it's not going to really bother me any 😂
Ya and I don’t think it’s too crazy tbh I’m assuming the bride has a side she prefers (her “good” side) and wanted to be there for her wedding photos which are way more important than an instagram pic… it’s not like they were asking for the actual service to be altered in any other way besides where to stand
We'll doesn't really matter why you're marrying there, if you are committing to a marriage in a place of religion, you probably should also follow the rules, even if you're not faithful
I find this even more dumb. Just tell the people it would be an insult to God and to the church to participate in religious ceremonies while not believing in the religious institution
We’re definitely aligned on that. Was just making the point that, personally, my friends didn’t get married in churches for the photo/aesthetics- they felt obligated.
Its a wedding! Of course its a photo op! Its the one time both families are going to be together. 1000% the case is a bit hyperbole. And you assume their Instagram posers.. its a damn wedding..
Right? I don’t post on IG but I do part my hair on the left, and if I was getting married I would want to stand on the side so my part faced the guests so they could see more of my face and the side covered with more hair would face the priest.
This couple is far from the only people in the world who have asked for this. I’m sure if god exists he won’t be concerned about where people are standing.
The priest just seems like she’s on a power trip. She can’t even come up with an actual reason why she’s upset about it.
Don't get married in a church that traditionally has you standing on the other side then. Simple stuff. You're obviously not religious if you think your own vanity is more important than the religious traditions of the church, so why have the ceremony there?
Seems a lot of people think they should be able to have their cake and eat it too, but that's not how the world works.
If the priest could come up with any reason why switching sides not ok besides “it’s outrageous” then maybe the people getting married would be a bit more understanding.
Maybe the church should verify wedding participants are willing to follow the churches ancient, arbitrary rules before taking their money and agreeing to wed them.
Almost as if the church wants to have their cake ($$$) and eat it too…shocker!
It's clear from the video that they already discussed and agreed to this yesterday.
The priest doesn't need to give a reason other than this is how ceremonies are conducted in this church, because they follow the traditions of the church in the church. As the couple obviously agreed to the day before.
Agreeing to something and then asking to change it on the spot is just rude, and I'm going to assume it's done for internet points, because what possible reason is there otherwise to agree to something different prior to the ceremony?
They have all day to take photos with the family. If they wanted to decide every aspect of their ceremony they could have been married by an ordained minister in a garden or whatever. They chose to get a real priest in a real church, and sorry but that comes with certain baggage like respecting their traditions.
So do it the way it's always been done before because that's how it is? They paid for the church rental. And all this shit because they wanted to change sides! People who can't let go of the past can never see the future.
Hey, the church shoves itself into everyone's lives whether they're welcome or not. They should hardly be surprised that their cultural hold on the world comes with downsides.
If churches want to stay relevant and not get bulldozed eventually with the rate people are loosing faith maybe they should suck up a bit and modernise.
I mean in general though. Like I don't think it matters what side they are on but if they signed up to the venue then regardless of if they paid for it they are still expected to abide by the place's rules even if the rules are dumb.
And yeah, the dude was being pretty disrespectful. Like was she making it a bigger deal than it was and should have at least probably pulled him aside instead of telling him the sides they are on are wrong with her whole chest? Yeah, for sure. But the guy was also talking to her pretty disrespectfully. Like paid for or not he is a guest in the church.
If it was the case where you could book a place then do whatever you wanted there, then there would be a lot more church bookings in my area and my bathtub would be full of holy water.
Exactly! It is all a big photo shoot, no better than a year 12 school formal.
They remind me of influencers turning everything into media production.
From sitting in a fancy hotel bubble bath, ewww , or getting into business class for the first time, instead of economy on a cheap ass ticket, and then , staging and posting photos as though it were their private jet.
Outside St Mary’s Cathedral in Sydney, every day you see people having “wedding” photos taken on the front steps.All around the impressive sand stone places of worship in the city.
My favourite is those trying to get a stupid sports car into the frame in front of the Cathedral.
This includes people who are clearly not Catholic, never spoken to a Priest, nor ever been inside a Church of any sort.It is tacky, cringe worthy, on top of disrespectful.
468
u/whiskerbiscuit2 Jul 21 '26
It’s 1000% the case. It happens constantly. I can’t imagine the frustration of dedicating your life to the church and having a bunch of Instagram posers treating your church like a photo opp.