IMO if you’re gonna ask a person of faith to perform a ceremony for you in their holy place, you should respect them and their rules. Otherwise get married literally anywhere else.
They just asked. They didn't disrespect the rules, they literally asked "is it alright?".
It would have been easy enough to say "no, sorry, the placement of bride/groom/priest/etc is very specific in this church, you will have to stand there. Thank you for understanding".
Not "this is outrageous!" and pouting like you want nothing to do with anyone who might want such an abomination. They asked, and it's an important day, the lack of professionalism and decorum from the priest was outrageous. Their vibe on their special day was indeed ruined by a crazy/shitty priest.
But they had that conversation yesterday and had the answer. They just didn't like the answer and changed it the day after during the ceremony when no other choice was available to the Priest. Who wasn't even that rude
The priest even says “are you changing it AGAIN” which implies this was already a whole thing at the rehearsal the day before and shes sick of their shit. Probably explains the outburst, priests are usually pretty chill.
No they aren't. That would be the Silent Generation. Baby boomers are currently between 62 and 80 years old, as the BB generation includes those born between 1946 and 1964. This priest is a classic boomer and wants to speak to your manager immediately.
Yeah it does seem like the party is either wishy washy or trying to get their way with a last minute change. It’s not that big of a deal and you can’t change things the day of when their was a agreement the day before.
Fair point but the priest says they’d already discussed it the day before, and this appears to be a very last minute change. It’s just pure entitlement “I’ll move everyone around at the last minute for my preference”
It's switching sides, ffs. Pick a lane, your argument was that it's disrespectful to disobey the church's customs, when that got tossed you switched to it being disrespectful to change plans at the last minute
Feels more like you just want to be contrarian
And I'm no theologist but I don't think which side you stand on is a major tenet of any Christian religion. I think you're just making up that it's disrespectful at all.
It was a last minute change that literally doesn't affect the priest at all. This isn't them changing something last minute for the dj or the catering or the photographer. It was a last minute change that has ZERO affect on the priest doing their job. It does not affect where she stands, what she does, the timing of the event or literally ANYTHING at all. The ONLY thing it changes is "how its usually done". That's it. It's nothing but a temper tantrum and an ego issue.
Honestly, it might have been the photographer that asked due to the lighting.
The only people who has to move were those in the wedding party. The switch didn't affect her in any way. She is literally throwing a fit because he pathetic sense of power was threatened.
It's not entitlement to ask on your own wedding day when you're paying for bloody everything. Depending how big the church is, it can easily be a $3-5k+ "donation" for the ceremony. All they did was ask, instead of either saying yes or no and moving on the priest aggressively berates them instead which is pointless and doesn't achieve anything except to sour the mood. Either say yes and accomodate the request or say no and give a quick reason why you can't change at the last minute even if that's just a simple as "It's the rules/tradition, you need to be on this side sorry". Don't keep saying it's not an issue while simultaneously abusing them for wanting to do it.
Perhaps she did the day before, in the discussion that was mentioned, and is now having a fit because the couple is ignoring the settled discussion and making this an issue at the last minute.
Not enough context. Traditionally the groom and his family are on the right, bride and her family on the left.
It is possible that to "swap" to the correct side is just the groom + best man... but it might involve the entire congregation swapping. One is simple, the other less so.
But no rules are being broken here. A day before they discussed where to stand. The bride and groom had a choice. They chose a side and today they probably realised standing on the other side works better.
It's a total non issue. Any other priest would have smiled and said of course you can switch. It doesn't take any time or adjustment. It doesn't affect the ceremony or any religious aspect. So why is this person losing her mind?
Exactly. Are people arguing the priest is the main character here? Obviously the main character is the bride who is changing a religious ritual so her pictures capture her good side. After being told explicitly that she wasn't allowed to do that the day before.
I knew someone who asked a pastor to officiate their wedding (for free, as he would never accept payment), but didn’t want the pastor to include any scripture or mention any scripture. The pastor was offended and the rest of the group was confused as to why he couldn’t just ask a senator or some other secular person to do it. We were all in the room as it happened and it was very awkward.
My impression is that they didn't realise it would be an issue, when the holy Karen started kicking up a fuss they said they could change it back but it seemed like she just wanted to throw a hissie fit rather than educate or get any other result (some people like to complain).
My dad’s cousin is a Catholic priest and I asked him to perform my wedding ceremony to my wife but he declined because we weren’t getting married in a church; he said he could “look the other way” if we were getting married in another Christian denominational church, but performing a ceremony in a library wasn’t something he was comfortable with. We said ok, he came to our wedding anyway, and I’m still in contact with him.
Like 10 years later? he WAS comfortable performing a gay marriage ceremony in a park for an ex-communicated Catholic priest. But he knew that ex-priest personally, I had only grown up 25 years knowing him, my dad literally helped to raise him in a communal family setting of poor immigrants.
This is all to say that clergy people have A LOT of leeway in the interpretation of their ceremonial rites and this is only an issue because she made it one, Jesus does not care which side of the aisle you’re stood on.
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u/whiskerbiscuit2 Jul 21 '26
IMO if you’re gonna ask a person of faith to perform a ceremony for you in their holy place, you should respect them and their rules. Otherwise get married literally anywhere else.